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I have posted about my dad but this isn't about him....
My uncle was married to his wife for 40 years. They are/were 60 years old. My uncle's wife died a tragic and untimely death. We are all heart broken.
I offered to help pay for the funeral but it seems like they had it covered. But I want to do something. We have the money to help.
I need ideas.
Offering to pay for a vacation type trip
Or just some extra funds for him
paying for him to visit us
funding a trip to see his eldest kid (the others are in town) and us too (we are pretty close)ss
Flowers...they have plenty
Food...they have too much
I went and stayed for a week to provide emotional support (and to grieve)
Ideas?
This is a person I care deeply for. Not a random relative.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 10-16-2017 at 09:57 AM..
Reason: Thread title changed for clarification
Paying for his travel costs to see some family members is a nice gesture, I would see if he is interested or not, some people just do not want gifts or money spent on them, so he may reject you.
With the holidays coming up, it will be an especially difficult and lonely time for him. Maybe inviting him to spend Thanksgiving/Christmas with your family?
Does he actually need the monetary help? It seems he might not. Everyone who has suffered a loss needs emotional support, even if the financial end is covered. Sometimes, it's impossible to read the clues as to what someone needs. And for some, it's hard to accept help. He might just need to be alone.
It depends on the recipient. Make offers and see what sticks. As you are close, it seems time might be the most important gift you could give.
With the holidays coming up, it will be an especially difficult and lonely time for him. Maybe inviting him to spend Thanksgiving/Christmas with your family?
Perfect. I would not offer money to a relative, or anyone honestly, unless I thought there was a need. Money does not replace the loss of a loved one. Spending time with other family members can be a comfort.
With the holidays coming up, it will be an especially difficult and lonely time for him. Maybe inviting him to spend Thanksgiving/Christmas with your family?
^I think this is a very kind gesture and I completely agree.
Would he find it helpful to have someone to come in to cook/clean for a few months? Until he's a bit more used to being on his own?
I like this idea a lot. Perhaps I'd even wait a bit to let the initial tide of help ebb a bit. I'm told that a couple months after a death is when the help and attention starts drying up.
I like this idea a lot. Perhaps I'd even wait a bit to let the initial tide of help ebb a bit. I'm told that a couple months after a death is when the help and attention starts drying up.
That is very true...I am going to wait a while. I recall that quite well.
I think I am going to offer to buy plane tickets so he can go see his kids (for the holidays if he chooses) with a stop over to see us for a few days. He is retired so money is fixed.
He was the main cook and I don't think cleaning is much of an issue. But I will, of course talk with him and if a need arises I will jump in. I just want to make it better...I know I cant. But its true, being with friends and family is the best thing.
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