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I was at a movie theater this weekend and standing in line to get into the theater as they were cleaning it. As I turned around to look back (within my own space) I bumped the popcorn of the person who was behind me as she was balancing her popcorn in her hand with the box's edge was about half an inch from my elbow...there was no way for me to know that. In my view it was totally her fault for holding it so close to my elbow, in effect it was her carelessness.
She accused me for spilling her popcorn and said the right thing for me to do would be to buy her a new popcorn. I told her she should be responsible for her own popcorn not being knocked off by putting it into the space of others in front of her and that I turned around in my own space and that she should give ample space between her and the person in front.
She was mad and her husband called me some nasty names. Who do you think is right here?
You both contributed to the problem. Her standing close and not holding onto her bucket very well, and you not paying close attention to the personal space around you.
Probably the best thing would have offered to go halves with her.
You both contributed to the problem. Her standing close and not holding onto her bucket very well, and you not paying close attention to the personal space around you.
Probably the best thing would have offered to go halves with her.
You don't mention apologizing. Perhaps a simple "Oops. Sorry I bumped your popcorn. It sure is crowded here" might have sufficed and headed off a nasty exchange.
You were both at fault. I would have apologized and offered to replace it. Most people wouldn't accept the offer and that would be the end of it. If the woman had accepted I would have bought her a replacement and went about my business. No biggie.
Great. Now you're going to parse matters. UNC4Me was right. Just apologize for being a clumsy oaf that would have likely sufficed.
I did apologize but immediately after I apologized she screamed that I spilled her popcorn which is why I did not engage with her any further. It just went to show that she deemed herself totally not at fault for the whole thing whatsoever and assumed it was 100% my fault.
That is not how I saw it. Actually I see it as 100% her fault for being in my space as all I did was rotate my neck, her popcorn was literally touching my back which was entirely her mistake 100%.
Despite this I apologized and instead of assuming that she was careless she proceeded to ***** about how her popcorn was all over the floor.
this is the problem with our society, no personal responsibility of taking care of your own *****, it is always someone else's fault.
So five minutes later she'd forgotten you exist, and went in and enjoyed her movie. You're still stewing over it.
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