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Does this woman have a job? How does she get to work? How in the world did she get to be almost 50 years old and has no place of her own to live and no car? If her "friend" doesn't mind her flopping on his couch forever, then something else is going on in his mind. How could he ever hope to entertain a new lady with her hanging around? As far as needing rides to the new guy's place, has she ever heard of Uber? And why doesn't the new guy pick her up for dates? There are just too many weird questions about all this. I wouldn't want to involve myself with this craziness. If she asks for advice, I'd just shrug and say "I've got nothing".
All 3 of them... her, her male friend/former boyfriend, and the guy she likes and wants to convince him to want to date her are on disability.
She does not work.
As for as meeting a guy who will take care of her, he will have to have the finances to do this. Disability does not give you much "play money".
She wants to meet a guy who will court her.
Her male friend/former boyfriend does not work.
She lives with her mom, who is also on disability.
Disability only pays the necessary bills, and so she does not have a car.
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But how would a guy who wants to date a girl who is a situation like this feel and react? Same for a girl who wants to date a guy who is in a situation like this as well?
Depends on how hot they are compared to the alternatives.
Beyond me. She sounds like a real piece of work. And the guy? Doormat. (grow a set, man)
That new guy should be running away screaming.
But keeping your mouths shut is probably a good idea.
That is the impression I get regarding her friendship with her male friend/former boyfriend.
And yes, my husband and I have kept our mouths shut.
Several weeks ago when her male friend/former boyfriend did not want to take her to visit the guy she likes, she tried to get my husband to intervene and tell her male friend/former boyfriend to do what she wanted. He told her no.
But somehow she was able to convince her male friend/former boyfriend to do what she wanted him to do.
According to her she introduced the guy she likes to her male friend/former boyfriend as just a friend. This was several weeks ago.
I was just wondering how other males and females would feel regarding this situation.
This is for the male citydata members as well as the female citydata members.
My husband and I are friends with a couple who met in the 1990's. They became friends and then they dated off and on. When they were friends, the female half would spend the night or several nights at the guy's place while she slept on his couch and he slept in his bed. They would go out to dinner. He would also take her to her doctor appointments.
The same happened when they dated, but the difference was that they were intimate as well.
The most recent time they were dating again was this year. But the female half was not happy how the guy was treating her. So the two of them chose to be friends again.
This is when they asked us for our advice. My husband told both of them that in order for them to be friends, no sleepovers, no going out to dinner alone. Basically no date like behavior.
There is another guy the female is interested in. She is trying to convince him to want to date her. According to her he has been hurt in the past by the women he has dated.
She spends time with him off an on. But the only way she is able to do this is when her male friend drives her over to where he is. And to do this, he has her stay over at his place while sleeping on his couch. He does not want to have to pick her up in the morning to do this, and so he has her stay overnight. Recently she spent 2 nights and one day at his place. She went to visit the guy she wants to date over the weekend, and her guy friend took her to her doctor appointment.
This is frustrating to my husband and me. Both of us have kept our mouths shut.
But how would a guy who wants to date a girl who is a situation like this feel and react?
Same for a girl who wants to date a guy who is in a situation like this as well?
There are some major issues here. Disregarding the weird thing with the male friend, I would NEVER date someone that couldn't get to me without a driver. If you're unable to drive yourself to a date, you don't need to be dating.
There are some major issues here. Disregarding the weird thing with the male friend, I would NEVER date someone that couldn't get to me without a driver. If you're unable to drive yourself to a date, you don't need to be dating.
So someone who is blind doesn't date? Someone who has uncontrolled epilepsy doesn't date? Someone with learning disabilities or below level intelligence doesn't date?
Beyond me. She sounds like a real piece of work. And the guy? Doormat. (grow a set, man)
That new guy should be running away screaming.
But keeping your mouths shut is probably a good idea.
Well said^^. They asked what you thought and you told them. What they do now is up to them. Why you even want to be friends with these people is beyond me.
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