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My cousin was 36 when he died on Boxing Day.
He had liver cirrhosis.
He had been told to stop drinking 2 years ago when he was in hospital.
They said next time you won't be so lucky.
Christmas Day he was at ours,he's face was yellow but was in good spirits.
Happy and joking.
Christmas Day he drank all day and night ..whiskey and vodka(neat)
Boxing Day we got a call from my uncle to say he was dead.
9am he started vommiting blood...instead of phoning a ambulance they put him in bed and he slept.
He kept passing out then at 6pm he got up collapsed and died.
Cause of death a varcies bleed of esophagus.
Basically he bled to death ..I just keep thinking if he went to hospital they could of saved him,stopped the bleeding ..he was 36
I keep thinking about him all the time.
The pressure from his damaged liver caused them to burst and bleed.
I've read online that if you get to hospital quick enough they can tie them or give you a blood clotting drug.
No, he set the wheels in motion long before his final day, even if they could have done something at that instance to prolong his life, his action of drinking would just come right back around again.
You should find some grief counseling to help deal with this, the sooner, you seek help the quicker you will heal, and take the least toll on your psyche.
My cousin was 36 when he died on Boxing Day.
He had liver cirrhosis.
He had been told to stop drinking 2 years ago when he was in hospital.
They said next time you won't be so lucky.
Christmas Day he was at ours,he's face was yellow but was in good spirits.
Happy and joking.
Christmas Day he drank all day and night ..whiskey and vodka(neat)
Boxing Day we got a call from my uncle to say he was dead.
9am he started vommiting blood...instead of phoning a ambulance they put him in bed and he slept.
He kept passing out then at 6pm he got up collapsed and died.
Cause of death a varcies bleed of esophagus.
Basically he bled to death ..I just keep thinking if he went to hospital they could of saved him,stopped the bleeding ..he was 36
I keep thinking about him all the time.
The pressure from his damaged liver caused them to burst and bleed.
I've read online that if you get to hospital quick enough they can tie them or give you a blood clotting drug.
His excessive drinking was the cause of death. In the long run, the family could not save him. He needed to choose to stop drinking, and even at this point, the damage was done and it may have been too late.
However, for his family to just let him bleed to death without even trying to save him is crazy. Unless someone is terminally ill, on their deathbed, and has expressly indicated they don't want to be saved - I would call the ambulance. I certainly wouldn't be okay with them spending an entire day bleeding to death.
"Oh, you're having a heart attack? Too bad you spent a lifetime of eating bacon, Grandpa. Let's get you into bed, and we'll just see how it goes."
His excessive drinking was the cause of death. In the long run, the family could not save him. He needed to choose to stop drinking, and even at this point, the damage was done and it may have been too late.
However, for his family to just let him bleed to death without even trying to save him is crazy. Unless someone is terminally ill, on their deathbed, and has expressly indicated they don't want to be saved - I would call the ambulance. I certainly wouldn't be okay with them spending an entire day bleeding to death.
"Oh, you're having a heart attack? Too bad you spent a lifetime of eating bacon, Grandpa. Let's get you into bed, and we'll just see how it goes."
I agree.
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Originally Posted by Kellyanne29
I don't think my aunt and uncle realised how serious it worse at first,he also didn't want a doctor to be called.
I just hope he didn't suffer
While, you can not blame your aunt or uncle, as sometimes it is very difficult to determine how sick someone really is just by looking at them or talking to them.
What you can learn from this is that if you are ever in a situation where you are not sure whether or not to call the ambulance, even if the person says "No", it is better to call the ambulance just in case. And, of course, you have learned to get treatment if you are an alcoholic.
Your cousin was an alcoholic, an addict. Even if you had stopped him from drinking on Christmas Day, he would still have found a way to get alcohol. You could not have made him stop drinking, only he could have done that.
For future reference, vomiting blood might be a sign of internal bleeding. An ambulance should be called and the person transported to the doctor/hospital for examination.
My cousin was 36 when he died on Boxing Day.
He had liver cirrhosis.
He had been told to stop drinking 2 years ago when he was in hospital.
They said next time you won't be so lucky.
Christmas Day he was at ours,he's face was yellow but was in good spirits.
Happy and joking.
Christmas Day he drank all day and night ..whiskey and vodka(neat)
Boxing Day we got a call from my uncle to say he was dead.
9am he started vommiting blood...instead of phoning a ambulance they put him in bed and he slept.
He kept passing out then at 6pm he got up collapsed and died.
Cause of death a varcies bleed of esophagus.
Basically he bled to death ..I just keep thinking if he went to hospital they could of saved him,stopped the bleeding ..he was 36
I keep thinking about him all the time.
The pressure from his damaged liver caused them to burst and bleed.
I've read online that if you get to hospital quick enough they can tie them or give you a blood clotting drug.
That would have been just a band-aid measure. He would have died sooner or later, of some other alcoholism-related symptom. His system was trashed. There''s nothing anyone could have done.
Kellyanne, you have enough on your mind right now. This is not something you need to be worrying about. Do you have any friends? Get out an enjoy some social life, or something fun with your friends, to take the pressure off from your responsibilities. Take care of yourself. (((hugs)))
While, you can not blame your aunt or uncle, as sometimes it is very difficult to determine how sick someone really is just by looking at them or talking to them.
What you can learn from this is that if you are ever in a situation where you are not sure whether or not to call the ambulance, even if the person says "No", it is better to call the ambulance just in case. And, of course, you have learned to get treatment if you are an alcoholic.
I am sorry for your loss.
Oops, I missed the sentence that said that he was vomiting blood. IMHO, that definitely would be a sign that you need to call an ambulance, even if the person says "No".
My cousin was 36 when he died on Boxing Day.
He had liver cirrhosis.
He had been told to stop drinking 2 years ago when he was in hospital.
Your cousin was an adult that made his own decisions; there is nothing you could have done.
Just remember the good times.
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