This is what my friend explained to me decades ago that changed how I looked at the
workers...
she is an excellent therapist...has a gift.
When we 'get the deal' with our mothers...we stop wanting , expecting the world to parent us. (sounds weird if you are not used to therapy lingo, ha.)
We don't realize the hole in us from not being praised, hugged, encouraged , just loved enough. So as adults one teller doesn't smile at us and our Inner Child gets effected.
When we 'get the issue' with the mother...we all of a sudden need nothing from anyone..
We go out into the world being confident and secure.
We can see more clearly that that cashier's son may have been expelled that day...has troubles of her own she can not deal with well.
The other thing is WE can become the loving , kind person for all those waiters having a really bad day, thus, a bad attitude....and change their whole rest of the day with our kindness...and a bit extra in the tip.
We need to be more the shining light to these underpaid workers standing all day dealing with many unhappy customers.
It really changed me. I walk into Walmart as if I'm Princess Diana in a village of needy children giving smiles and love now. I almost hugged am older guy I bumped into that wanted to kill me! He melted with a smile seeing how genuinely sorry I was...''Oh my , are you ok, I am so clumsy!" With my hands on his shoulders to make sure he was ok.
Oh the change from 'kill' to a smile was so heart warming...
WE have to be the change in this world.
Try extreme kindness for a week, rush to a door to open it ...see the bubble of niceness that forms around you...and is aimed at you now.
Good luck! Forget anyone with you...life is all about you.
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