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I had to double and triple check to make sure I hadn't written this post. I completely understand every word you are saying and everything you are feeling. In addition to the workplace scenario you describe, mine is an ongoing thing with people in general. In my experience, people have no understanding or respect for boundaries that are outside of what they want or know. Abide by their social rules, or be damned.
I don't have any advice at the moment, but I wanted you to know that you are understood and not alone in your thinking.
Me too - I understand perfectly and I'm dealing with the same concern about a graceful exit. I don't really have a work group - I operate pretty independently - but there are a few people who I consider friends and would be happy to have a little celebration with. However, I don't want to rudely exclude others. I think I'll just talk with my boss about having no formal event, and invite those few friends out for lunch after I've been gone for a little while.
I like the idea of the supervisor sending out an email announcing the retirement, saying that the person has requested no special send-off events, inviting people to stop by individually to say goodbye, and wishing the person well. I hope mine goes for it!
Me too - I understand perfectly and I'm dealing with the same concern about a graceful exit. I don't really have a work group - I operate pretty independently - but there are a few people who I consider friends and would be happy to have a little celebration with. However, I don't want to rudely exclude others. I think I'll just talk with my boss about having no formal event, and invite those few friends out for lunch after I've been gone for a little while.
I like the idea of the supervisor sending out an email announcing the retirement, saying that the person has requested no special send-off events, inviting people to stop by individually to say goodbye, and wishing the person well. I hope mine goes for it!
I hope yours goes well to....Congratulations....thought Id never want to stop working, but I remember a woman who was retiring, telling me, when your ready, you'll know
Wishing you the best.
Yes I hate those farewell at work. At my last job, I simply called in sick on my last day. Two bosses texted me and wished me well. One was quite concerned. The thing is they were all so fake. I disliked almost all of them. Saw no point to pretend anymore.
Yes I hate those farewell at work. At my last job, I simply called in sick on my last day. Two bosses texted me and wished me well. One was quite concerned. The thing is they were all so fake. I disliked almost all of them. Saw no point to pretend anymore.
When I left a long-time job to move on to a new job, the department head/boss just could not understand why I did not want a farewell get-together. She was worried that the rest of the firm would think that something was wrong with the department she was in charge of - that maybe people in the firm would think that her department was not great to work in - she took my lack of wanting a farewell get-together as a direct reflection of her and all of her department. I was firm in not wanting a farewell get-together. (extremely large law firm which would have been awkward)
When I left a long-time job to move on to a new job, the department head/boss just could not understand why I did not want a farewell get-together. She was worried that the rest of the firm would think that something was wrong with the department she was in charge of - that maybe people in the firm would think that her department was not great to work in - she took my lack of wanting a farewell get-together as a direct reflection of her and all of her department. I was firm in not wanting a farewell get-together. (extremely large law firm which would have been awkward)
I believe this is exactly how my boss is feeling.....years ago, if someone didn't want a celebration, they honored it, but now, it's different...so many insecure leaders.
its a shame....
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