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Maybe there is a child in the class whose parents are not of the traditional type? Who knows? You could ask the teacher. Maybe the book has other themes the teacher was trying to convey? Maybe the point was team-building? Lots of possibilities...The book has great reviews. Talk to your child's teacher.
Yes. This is exactly what I was thinking after I read the OP.
I live in a pretty conservative area and know several "non-traditional" families. Those kids should feel just as welcome and accepted in their schools as the kids of "traditional" families.
should i be asking the teacher when she plans on telling my daughter how babies are made? i havent had that conversation yet either. its legal also.
Probably not.
But how about adoption? You should fully expect your daughter's teacher to read books about adoption. Especially if it relates personally to any child in the classroom.
About families?! Have you not talked to your kindergarten child about families? By that age, it should not be a completely foreign idea that people have all different types of families.
Is this the book you are so worked up about? A book about cartoon animals?
It's incredibly frustrating to see how many adults can't seem to grasp that this has little to do with homosexuality. It's not a book specifically about gay marriage since the book obviously isn't about marriage, or sexual relations.
It's animals with all different kinds of parents and households.
I just don't understand why some get so bent out of shape about this.
I would have given a short answer and that would have probably been enough. Something like, "Yes, Mindi, sometimes men and women want to marry each other. There are all different kinds of families. The most important thing is that they love and support each other."
I doubt if a 6 year old would see any difference between a lesbian couple or two sisters living together, or gay men and a bunch of straight male roommates living together. The hang ups are ours.
i think people without children or people with older children dont understand where a kindergarten age child is at. my daughter isnt on this yet and neither are her classmates. people pretend as if this is something the child will see, so they should be taught it in school. its a very weird concept. firstly, children arent likely to see it in my area and everyone (including the school staff) know this. secondly, if children see it; their parents can talk about it. im not sure why everyone is ceding their duties as a parent to the school. if my daughter saw two men with a child; she isnt going to go over to them and start dropping f bombs and telling them that they arent welcome in these parts. she is going to ask me about it. this just isnt something that we need to be desperate to ram into kids heads and i dont really need to say this because everyone knows it. its intentional, its social engineering. they are intentionally starting before parents because they want to beat us to it. i dont appreciate that they did it early because they want to get to it before parents.
Many could rightfully argue that having any school teach a child anything is "ceding their duties as a parent to the school."
Are parents not capable of teaching their own kids to read?
Do arithmetic?
Learn history from books borrowed from the library?
To presume that people with older children particularly don't understand where a kindergarten child is intellectually, emotionally, etc. is rather odd.
To also assume that "they are intentionally starting before parents" is one of those blanket statements that is completely meaningless unless/until you are able to survey every parent of every child in that age group.
My grand-daughter has already had this particular conversation with her four-year old daughter, so...
Sure, I may not know where your child is but kids are not that different from one generation to the next.
If anything, most of us with older kids and (great) grand kids, have learned that often the best way to handle "uncomfortable" situations is to answer the question with as simple a response possible - in this case "yes" - and move on.
I do know that kids at that age don't really need anything more detailed than that.
But that may be something that people only learn with experience.
The answer is, Yes she will have the option to marry a woman once she reaches adulthood. That is a simple fact. Unless our country regresses and makes same-sex marriage illegal again. In which case, she'll still have the option to move to other countries such as Denmark and marry a woman. So, to put it simply, the answer to her question is Yes.
I have a 4-year-old daughter and my policy is to tell her the truth when she asks me a question. Kind of crazy, I know.
I would have given a short answer and that would have probably been enough. Something like, "Yes, Mindi, sometimes men and women want to marry each other. There are all different kinds of families. The most important thing is that they love and support each other."
I doubt if a 6 year old would see any difference between a lesbian couple or two sisters living together, or gay men and a bunch of straight male roommates living together. The hang ups are ours.
When I was a kid, there was a lesbian couple that lived across the street, and I was friends with their daughter. I had to have been 10 or 11 years old before it occurred to me that they weren't just roommates. It wasn't much more shocking that finding out that the brother and sister next door were having a baby; turns out they weren't actually brother and sister, but just said landlord wouldn't rent to an unmarried couple. Which was odd in an of itself, considering it was an ultra-liberal town.
My daughter just finished up kindergarten. Her teacher was pregnant and delivered with about a month left in the year. I was bombarded with how are babies made. How dare she introduce such concepts.
We have a mixed race family that we are friends with. We just went on vacation with them. My kids generally aren't curious about race, but during a trip with just the two of us to a store she asked if white people could marry black people. I explained yes and also that it wasn't always the case. I think she was more checking on her future options with their son, so a little chat about appropriate behavior as well......
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