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A friend of mine's wife had a baby Thursday. This is their third child.
He works as a mental health counselor and has a steady desk job. I ran into him at lunch the day after at a restaurant with a mutual friend. He also writes on the side, and was at a local comic store promoting the book Saturday. He also pastors at a local church and was preaching yesterday. He's always out and about, and hardly ever mentions his wife or other children. She seems to just stay home with the kids, while he's always active and doing something.
It just seems odd that he is back to his normal routine so quickly after having a new baby. How long did it take for the fathers on here to back to their regular routine?
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After the third baby? I think my husband took the next day or two off (I had a c-section) and then was back to his regular routine which included out of town travel and long work days.
It really depends on the couple, I think. Some moms want more help, or need more help because of health issues, and some dads want to be around to experience it.
As long or as short as the situation allows. If it works for them then that's great. My husband was home for a month with our son and went back then because there really wasn't much for him to do. He could have stayed home fully paid longer.
I just thought it was kind of odd. I don't know how long the wife was in the hospital, but figured he would be spending more time with the family at that point.
That's going to vary dramatically between families. Perhaps her parents/mother help out a lot, perhaps she doesn't need/want help, perhaps he's so full of energy she sends him out to do all his activities out of the house. Perhaps they really need the income from the book? Does his wife and children attend the church he leads?
But if you're just trying to get a general idea of how long other dads "take off" from work; my husband took maybe a week after each of our four babies were born. Depending on what day of the week the baby was born, and what else was going on in our lives. He usually did some work from home during that time.
It varies depending on everyone's home situation. With a SAHM, and 3 kids, he might need to get back to work ASAP to keep money coming in. Who knows, and certainly nobody's business what their family does or does not do.
We have #3 due in the fall, and I'm planning on 2 weeks at home, but with some working from home here and there. My dad, who was part of the the "wife stays home and takes care of kids and dad goes to work" generation generally scoffs at that idea when I mention it.
My wife's planning on being home for 3 months before heading back to work.
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We adopted internationally and my husband went to work the day I flew home with our infants. I wished he had taken time off...but he did take time off to come visit the babies and...well after an adoption, we needed the money.
A friend of mine's wife had a baby Thursday. This is their third child.
He works as a mental health counselor and has a steady desk job. I ran into him at lunch the day after at a restaurant with a mutual friend. He also writes on the side, and was at a local comic store promoting the book Saturday. He also pastors at a local church and was preaching yesterday. He's always out and about, and hardly ever mentions his wife or other children. She seems to just stay home with the kids, while he's always active and doing something.
It just seems odd that he is back to his normal routine so quickly after having a new baby. How long did it take for the fathers on here to back to their regular routine?
Third child? This isn't new for him, a third child doesn't throw you for a loop like a first one does, IMO. What you perceive as odd might be normal for them, perhaps his wife is a homebody. By now each are very comfortable with their role within the family and what is best for them.
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