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How would you approach trying to "unsay" some hurtful things you said to one of your adult children during an argument? The child is not big on forgiving and forgetting. I'm trying to find something better than "absence makes the heart grow fonder", if you get my meaning.
Short and sweet. "I'm sorry, I was wrong". If you want to add "Please forgive me, I love you", it can't hurt. Delivered in person or by phone is best, anything but a text message. Then, patience.
Short and sweet. "I'm sorry, I was wrong". If you want to add "Please forgive me, I love you", it can't hurt. Delivered in person or by phone is best, anything but a text message. Then, patience.
Also, keep in mind that some things are just "too" hurtful to ever be forgiven. Or, it may take years for them to be forgiven. Next time do not say them.
How would you approach trying to "unsay" some hurtful things you said to one of your adult children during an argument? The child is not big on forgiving and forgetting. I'm trying to find something better than "absence makes the heart grow fonder", if you get my meaning.
I am sorry for not respecting you as an adult, and an individual. I am sorry for treating you like my baby. I should watch what I say, as if talking to any random stranger.
There really should not be any arguments with Adult son/daughter or kids, not children. Respectful grown ups dont act this way.
I think saying you are sorry is all you can do. Be careful of what you say, somethings cannot be 'unsaid'. My mother has said several hurtful things over the years to me. Even when she apologized much later it didn't take away how much they hurt.
How would you approach trying to "unsay" some hurtful things you said to one of your adult children during an argument? The child is not big on forgiving and forgetting. I'm trying to find something better than "absence makes the heart grow fonder", if you get my meaning.
Children are very perceptive, they know this truth when they hear it.
If they don't forgive its because they know lip service when they hear it.
There is no situation so convoluted and tangled that a sufficient application of Love cannot dissolve.
But it starts with truth.
My truth is I'm not God, I'm an imperfect human and I make stupid blunders that cause harm, but I make amends and its bit more than mumbling apologies about never meaning to hurt or harm anyone,
thats a big black bleeping lie.
Of course I meant to inflict harm and the other person knows it.
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I think it largely depends on whether the very hurtful thing you said is true. If it's clearly not true, that's more forgivable than if you say something that's true and you both know it.
My mom apologizes for stuff like this...."I'm sorry I interfered with your parenting, I was only trying to help out" Therefore she throws the guilt back on me, like I am the mean person who is calling her out when she was only "trying to help"
Better way to say it "I'm sorry, I was wrong to interfere with your parenting" PERIOD
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