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Old 08-15-2012, 01:21 PM
 
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I'm 20 years old and I just moved to the Phoenix area, from Michigan, all by myself. I'm staying with a family friend, who is much older than me, but besides her I don't know anybody else in Arizona. I'm having regrets about moving here. I've been here several times before, visiting a friend who used to live here and I fell in love with it. I don't know if its just nervous jitters or if I really did make the wrong decision. I'm looking for a job and I start school next week, so I will meet people then. But I'm having anxiety this week because I have no one to talk to and don't really have anything to do. I'm also worried I won't make friends next week as easy as I think it will be. So what then? Do I move back home? Just wondering if anybody else has had the same jitters moving across the country or if I truly did make the wrong decision.
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Old 08-15-2012, 01:29 PM
 
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Give it some time before you make up your mind.. I had those jitters when I joined the military when I was a kid and thought I made a big mistake but after a few weeks I got use to it and everything was good with the world
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Old 08-15-2012, 01:30 PM
 
Location: Metro Phoenix, AZ USA
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I'm 20 years old and I just moved to the Phoenix area, from Michigan, all by myself. I'm staying with a family friend, who is much older than me, but besides her I don't know anybody else in Arizona. I'm having regrets about moving here. I've been here several times before, visiting a friend who used to live here and I fell in love with it. I don't know if its just nervous jitters or if I really did make the wrong decision. I'm looking for a job and I start school next week, so I will meet people then. But I'm having anxiety this week because I have no one to talk to and don't really have anything to do. I'm also worried I won't make friends next week as easy as I think it will be. So what then? Do I move back home? Just wondering if anybody else has had the same jitters moving across the country or if I truly did make the wrong decision.

I haven't done what you did, but I will tell you that it is WAY too early to decide that you were wrong to come here. Don't stress yourself out about it now. When school starts, you will be a lot busier, you will meet people. Sometimes you have to put yourself out there a little bit in terms of making friends, but it will be a lot easier when you are in school with lots of people around. Finding a job will put you in contact with more people once you start working. If you have time on your hands after school starts, do some volunteering, go to meetup.com to find groups with similar interests. What school will you be going to?
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Old 08-15-2012, 02:06 PM
 
Location: Maricopa County, AZ
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I'm 20 years old and I just moved to the Phoenix area, from Michigan, all by myself. I'm staying with a family friend, who is much older than me, but besides her I don't know anybody else in Arizona. I'm having regrets about moving here. I've been here several times before, visiting a friend who used to live here and I fell in love with it. I don't know if its just nervous jitters or if I really did make the wrong decision. I'm looking for a job and I start school next week, so I will meet people then. But I'm having anxiety this week because I have no one to talk to and don't really have anything to do. I'm also worried I won't make friends next week as easy as I think it will be. So what then? Do I move back home? Just wondering if anybody else has had the same jitters moving across the country or if I truly did make the wrong decision.
Been there, done that.
I moved to a town in Louisiana to accept a job offer and didn't know a soul there, other than the person who hired me (through interviews on the phone). Moving from Phoenix to a small town brought on so many nervous jitters. Long story short, I spent two years there and look back as having some of my best times then. Just give yourself some time to meet others and it should be all good. When school starts, you'll meet others with the same interests and they'll point you to others. Give it time. Ya gotta live somewhere.
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Old 08-15-2012, 02:09 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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I'm 20 years old and I just moved to the Phoenix area, from Michigan, all by myself. I'm staying with a family friend, who is much older than me, but besides her I don't know anybody else in Arizona. I'm having regrets about moving here. I've been here several times before, visiting a friend who used to live here and I fell in love with it. I don't know if its just nervous jitters or if I really did make the wrong decision. I'm looking for a job and I start school next week, so I will meet people then. But I'm having anxiety this week because I have no one to talk to and don't really have anything to do. I'm also worried I won't make friends next week as easy as I think it will be. So what then? Do I move back home? Just wondering if anybody else has had the same jitters moving across the country or if I truly did make the wrong decision.
I'll second (or third...) what the others have already said. Give it more time. I moved my family out here from the east about 6 weeks ago and although we generally love it here we've all had our bouts of homesickness to one degree or another. I recognize this as normal second-guessing yourself. I'm old enough to be your dad and I've experienced my fair share of that . For example, I can recall that most of the time after starting a new job I've wondered if I made a mistake. In most cases after just giving it some time that turned out not to be the case, I was happy in my new positions. The one or two times in my life that it was the wrong move, it became more clear as time went on and so I took action. So I'd say: start school with the intention of enjoying it and your new home, and see what the future holds.

Good luck!
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Old 08-15-2012, 02:49 PM
 
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I'm not sure where in MI you're from, but if it's Metro Detroit, you definitely did NOT make the wrong decision. I'm moving to Phoenix from the Detroit area next week and cannot wait to get out of this hell hole. You're young and are very lucky you won't have to face getting stuck in MI. Give it some time. I think you made a good move though. Hope it works out.
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Old 08-15-2012, 02:58 PM
 
Location: Sonoran Desert
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You don't say what kind of things you like to do but if you are into outdoor stuff at all I would recommend you check into this:

http://www.azotc.com/

It has been some time since I was a member but when I was it was really big, really diverse, and a great place to meet people.
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Old 08-15-2012, 03:22 PM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ
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This Michigander moved here 2 years ago with no job or place to live. Only knew 2 people (friend and uncle). I still don't know many people but don't regret the move. Going to school you will likely meet new people and get over your jitters.

Welcome.
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Old 08-15-2012, 04:21 PM
 
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I'm not sure where in MI you're from, but if it's Metro Detroit, you definitely did NOT make the wrong decision. I'm moving to Phoenix from the Detroit area next week and cannot wait to get out of this hell hole. You're young and are very lucky you won't have to face getting stuck in MI. Give it some time. I think you made a good move though. Hope it works out.
Anyone who's been to Detroit or other similar dumps knows that one can only go up with a move here. It just takes some time to acclimate.
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Old 08-15-2012, 04:47 PM
 
Location: Peoria, Az
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I relocated from IL. It took me about 2 years to really feel comfortable, and learn that I had to leave my comfort zone and get out there. Meetup.com was helpful, you can find different groups based on your hobbies and such. I was nervous going to the first meetings, but really, Az is made up of a lot of people who have relocated. Either way, come December when your friends & fam are complaining of the weather, you'll feel more positive =)
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