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When establishing rapport with new people, in situations such as a job interview, meeting new friends, etc. what are some good ways to let the person know that you are being direct with them, without outright saying it? Yeah, I know that would technically be indirect, but I am having a hard time proving to peope that what I say on the surface is literally what I mean, no strings attached. How do I get people to trust me in this regard?
I'm not sure I understand...why in a job interview would you be asked to prove you're being direct? Do you sound wishy-washy in the way you say things? (saying "uh", "ummm". ending sentences with something that sounds more like a question mark than a period? Context.
That's just something that people learn about you over time. Trust is earned, not granted because you would prefer it that way.
Personally, I can usually tell when someone is direct. For something like honestly, I reserve judgement until I've known them for awhile and can evaluate their behavior over time.
Someone who does a lot of job interviewing probably has a pretty good barometer to tell if an applicant is direct or full of bs.
I suggest that you relax and stop worrying about it. Worrying about how people are going to perceive what you are saying makes you look insincere.
I find that people who do not take me for my word, do not believe what I am saying, are themselves dishonest and untrustworthy. And I don't care to have anything to do with those people.
So good if you don't get the job, they are doing you a favor! (I wouldn't worry about it, hang with people who believe what you say.)
Note you CAN repeat exactly what you said several times in a row (if questioned as to the correctness / truthfulness of what you are saying). That drives the point home. It is called being "assertive".
Example:
I want to work here because I like cooking!
(Person says no you don't.)
I want to work here because I like cooking!
Person says I doubt that!
I want to work here because I like cooking!
Person says really?
I want to work here because I like cooking!
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