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Its not my choice. It is my sister's choice. I will respect what ever decision she makes. No hard feelings what so ever. Just fleeting disappointment. Doesn't mean I will be apart of it though.
So you plan to punish your sister by boycotting her wedding if she doesn't abide by your wishes???
This says that you value your relationship with your dad more than your sister. Is that true??
So you plan to punish your sister by boycotting her wedding if she doesn't abide by your wishes???
This says that you value your relationship with your dad more than your sister. Is that true??
No, I am a man of principle and conviction. I will boycott (and have) my father as I will do anyone depending on the circumstances.
I do not really view it as punishing her. It is her decision to make. Her wedding will go on with or without me.
I value all of my family, but not any specific one over the other when principle and conviction is at stake. If I feel strongly that something is wrong I will not be apart of it.
As I would not expect them to do as well if the tables were revered.
Well of course it does because he should never be held accountable for his actions.....<gag>
so let me just answer the original question in your title.
YES, you are out of line here.
I wish you all you deserve in your lifetime and I do hope your Sister has a lovely joyous wedding day,
in spite of you.
I am sure she will. I am no integral piece of her wedding, certainly no more than a Father ought be. Her wedding will go on splendid with or without me.
No, I am a man of principle and conviction. I will boycott (and have) my father as I will do anyone depending on the circumstances.
I do not really view it as punishing her. It is her decision to make. Her wedding will go on with or without me.
I value all of my family, but not any specific one over the other when principle and conviction is at stake. If I feel strongly that something is wrong I will not be apart of it.
As I would not expect them to do as well if the tables were revered.
Punishing her is exactly what it looks like you are doing. You gave her an ultimatum.
You are WAY out of line.
"Sticking to your principles" sounds like a cop-out. It's a way to (supposedly) hold yourself "above it all" and attempt to make yourself look like the better man when actually it makes you look immature and judgmental.
You have NO IDEA what your sister went through with your dad. You claim to have such high principles, yet you expect your sister to abandon HER principles "for one day," for your dad's sake. It's hypocritical.
Punishing her is exactly what it looks like you are doing. You gave her an ultimatum.
You are WAY out of line.
"Sticking to your principles" sounds like a cop-out. It's a way to (supposedly) hold yourself "above it all" and attempt to make yourself look like the better man when actually it makes you look immature and judgmental.
You have NO IDEA what your sister went through with your dad. You claim to have such high principles, yet you expect your sister to abandon HER principles "for one day," for your dad's sake. It's hypocritical.
Looks can be deceiving.
Might sound like a cop-out to you, but it is truly how I feel about the matter. It is not about me being above anyone or looking better (makes me look bad actually). It is all about me being true to myself and my convictions. What I feel is right and wrong.
I want my sister to atleast take my counsel and make the decision she feels is right. I want her to keep her principles. If her principles tell her to not include our father I will understand and respect that. That doesn't mean I will hold hard feelings or that I must be apart of it.
Well of course it does because he should never be held accountable for his actions.....<gag>
so let me just answer the original question in your title.
YES, you are out of line here.
I wish you all you deserve in your lifetime and I do hope your Sister has a lovely joyous wedding day,
in spite of you.
You don't have a right to judge this man. If his Father was sick, as he said he was, then its not like he chose his path, no more than a person who loses both legs can choose to walk on them.
His mother did not have to stay married to him, if he did not seek treatment right away, but you don't know the History here either. You can't condemn some one for life because they became mentally ill. Its not like its a choice.
I think he is right, in his convictions. You only have one Father, and we don't have much say over mental problems. If Mom and Sister choose to disown him, that's fine, but he does not have to be a part of an act of revenge, or agree with it. Excluding the Father is an act of revenge, nothing else.
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