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A lot of it depends on the level of maturity and honesty that the relationship is at.
It gets complicated when the reasons for the urge to merge are different.
One night stands are understood that it was just an itch that needed to be scratched but if the people involved have children and are looking for something that is real and may last, communication is needed until a mutual understanding can be agreed upon.
Here are some excellent examples of women who were well know to have complicated famous, and one not so famous, men's lives to the point that their future was changed dramatically.
These are the men who's live's were altered
1) Tiger Woods
2) South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford
3) Presidential candidate John Edwards
4) President John F. Kennedy
5) New York Governor Eliot Spitzer
6) King Henry VIII
7) President Franklin D. Roosevelt
8) President Bill Clinton
9) Britain's Prince Charles
10) Long Island auto mechanic Joey Buttafuoco
I think it depends on the two (or more?!) people having the sex.
Sex tends to complicate things when people choose unwise situations or partners, when they don't exercise reasonable restraint, and/or when they don't communicate at least as much as they shag. That last one is really the kicker and the one most people tend to do wrongly. If involved parties are free of other romantic commitments, talk honestly about why they want it and what it means for them, and both understand each other clearly, it doesn't have to complicate anything.
No, the immediate act of healthy, consensual sex does not complicate things. It should improve your immediate state.
Betrayal complicates things. One's sense of morality can complicate things. Other's impressions can complicate things. The outcome of unprotected sex can complicate things.
YES. I believe so, since it is commonplace for many to become involved physically prior to knowing what they are getting into, it can end up creating a "false sense of intimacy" based upon physicality, without actual emotion or attachment. Some will have sex with no intention of developing more with a person, so dishonesty can affect another.
Couples may continue due to the sexual part, yet while in the process, discover problems or incompatibilities and may justify being together due to sex, rather than face it. Also, one may become more attached than the other. And what if in the meantime, a pregnancy develops? Ultimately, things can fade as real life sets in and without having a real foundation.
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YES. I believe so, since it is commonplace for many to become involved physically prior to knowing what they are getting into, it can end up creating a "false sense of intimacy" based upon physicality, without actual emotion or attachment.
Sure, couples may continue due to the sexual part, yet while in the process, discover incompatibilities or problems, and may justify being together due to sex, rather than face it. Also, one may become more attached than the other. And what if in the meantime, a pregnancy develops? Ultimately, things can fade as real life sets in and without having a real foundation.
Agreed here, and with Howest2008
For some people, sex changes nothing. But for many others, it does in fact cloud judgement when it's good.
There's people they are in unhealthy relationships because they're blinded by good sex. One lady in the relationships forum even admitted that if the physical pleasure is great enough, it will make her wanna get things to work with the men in question.
Some people can't separate sex from love. They think just because someone ca make them feel good as hell with sex, there has to be some deepness and love involved. It seems to happen more with young girls and women. And older men. Where they get attached and the other doesn't.
I always bring up this example, because it's the worst, or most pathetic, case I saw. She asked over 80 questions about this guy. So that's why I know her story.
Spoiler
A young girl, aged 25 - in law school, met this guy and started talking to him. He was very open about wanting to sleep with her. He was also honest about the fact that he already had a girlfriend, thus wasn't looking for another. After a few months of talking, she finally caved to his desire to have sex. However she told him they could only hook up if he contacted her consistently outside of sex.
Things were fine in the beginning. He'd be relatively charming and considerate, and actually feed her some nice lines, so she thought he cared about her. Gradually as she got more sprung on him, his treatment of her got worse, because he knew she was sprung, and would put up with it. 2 years this lasted. She thought she was the better woman, and that'd he'd dump his girlfriend. Never happened. Then she started a period of denial that he couldn't care for her, given what a catch she was. Wrong.
Finally she started to admit to the fact he may very well not care. Then resorted to trying to have power over him sexually. Stating she wouldn't sleep with him if he slept with other women (after his girlfriend dumped him). When they finally talked she found out, through his admission, that he was sleeping around. She also discovered a new girl that he started dating. THEN, it finally sank in completely how little this guy valued her. As a person, and even sexually since just sleeping with her alone wasn't enough for him.
But anyway, she seemed to be sprung on sex at the start. A few times she'd claim to be in love with him. Then later admit all they really had for connection was sex.
Here are some excellent examples of women who were well know to have complicated famous, and one not so famous, men's lives to the point that their future was changed dramatically.
These are the men who's live's were altered
1) Tiger Woods
2) South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford
3) Presidential candidate John Edwards
4) President John F. Kennedy
5) New York Governor Eliot Spitzer
6) King Henry VIII
7) President Franklin D. Roosevelt
8) President Bill Clinton
9) Britain's Prince Charles
10) Long Island auto mechanic Joey Buttafuoco
Uh, the women are to blame?? First of all, just because the females existed, doesn't mean there were not choices involved by both parties and has to do with emotions and impulse control. All the men had this in common.
And Tiger Woods? He's just a big ol' Sex Addict, which is really not about sex, but escaping and continually wanting a high, a release from pain. He altered his own life. (If you don't believe in the description of, look it up).
And yes, in these cases, having sex complicated things. (I just don't agree with how this was presented).
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For some people, sex changes nothing. But for many others, it does in fact cloud judgement when it's good.
There's people they are in unhealthy relationships because they're blinded by good sex. One lady in the relationships forum even admitted that if the physical pleasure is great enough, it will make her wanna get things to work with the men in question.
Some people can't separate sex from love. They think just because someone ca make them feel good as hell with sex, there has to be some deepness and love involved. It seems to happen more with young girls and women. And older men. Where they get attached and the other doesn't.
I always bring up this example, because it's the worst, or most pathetic, case I saw. She asked over 80 questions about this guy. So that's why I know her story.
Spoiler
A young girl, aged 25 - in law school, met this guy and started talking to him. He was very open about wanting to sleep with her. He was also honest about the fact that he already had a girlfriend, thus wasn't looking for another. After a few months of talking, she finally caved to his desire to have sex. However she told him they could only hook up if he contacted her consistently outside of sex.
Things were fine in the beginning. He'd be relatively charming and considerate, and actually feed her some nice lines, so she thought he cared about her. Gradually as she got more sprung on him, his treatment of her got worse, because he knew she was sprung, and would put up with it. 2 years this lasted. She thought she was the better woman, and that'd he'd dump his girlfriend. Never happened. Then she started a period of denial that he couldn't care for her, given what a catch she was. Wrong.
Finally she started to admit to the fact he may very well not care. Then resorted to trying to have power over him sexually. Stating she wouldn't sleep with him if he slept with other women (after his girlfriend dumped him). When they finally talked she found out, through his admission, that he was sleeping around. She also discovered a new girl that he started dating. THEN, it finally sank in completely how little this guy valued her. As a person, and even sexually since just sleeping with her alone wasn't enough for him.
But anyway, she seemed to be sprung on sex at the start. A few times she'd claim to be in love with him. Then later admit all they really had for connection was sex.
Yep. And the story is sickening, just one example. And since everyone is different emotionally, besides instances being different, there is not one set of circumstances - but one thing for sure is, everyone has sex, no matter how screwed up they may be. So, it's just a bunch of fun...oh, and think of all the people born who were unplanned, many into unfortunate circumstances.
I have said, there appears to exist TWO major forces... one being Sex .. the other being Money.
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