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Originally Posted by ihatepeoplesomuch
Why is it only used for women, kids & pets? I just want to get at the thinking behind it... Do you just not feel the same emotion towards men as you do kids or pets?
Cute to me means ... cute. I don't see men as cute, that's all. The word doesn't apply. Well, maybe if they're dressed in a giant rubber ducky costume or something. :-)
Location: Mableton, GA USA (NW Atlanta suburb, 4 miles OTP)
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Originally Posted by ajams22
As a gay man, I think it's ridiculous when straight guys can't just admit another dude is attractive. You don't have to be sexually attracted to them, but you can obviously (and objectively) tell when someone is just good looking
"Attractive" is not always "cute". The two terms are not synonymous.
Why is it only used for women, kids & pets? I just want to get at the thinking behind it... Do you just not feel the same emotion towards men as you do kids or pets?
No, of course not.
I also don't feel the same emotion towards kids or pets as I do towards women, which is probably best, from a moral and legal standpoint....
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Originally Posted by ihatepeoplesomuch
I'm wondering if it's just a societal thing or if it is the wiring of a man's brain vs. a female's brain.
Maybe it's just a linguistic thing. If I don't use a certain word in a certain context, I'm not likely to link that word in my mind to a particular perception or feeling. Which I guess would make it social. I really don't think it's neurological.
For example, I'm sure that you've noticed certain masculine guys who are successful with the ladies, but do you identify them as "buck-studs"? Thought not. Same observation, different lexical response.
Cute to me means ... cute. I don't see men as cute, that's all. The word doesn't apply. Well, maybe if they're dressed in a giant rubber ducky costume or something. :-)
I went to a party like that once. I felt underdressed....
So my question is, do straight guys feel a sense of "cuteness" with their friends? Don't they think it's cute when their friends do things for them? Do straight guys think other men are "cute"? (not in a purely sexual context but in a more visual and emotional context) Why are they so afraid to show it?
I asked in the visual way and the emotional way but most guys on here answered in the visual way which is only part of what I asked
No, it's not a definition supported by any dictionary I've found; look it up. If a guy treks through a blizzard to help me dig out my car, that's cool - there's nothing "cute" about it.
What if women were to call a man cute? Is that seen as a negative or a positive?
It just seems so odd that a simple feeling or word is completely banned from the straight male world. If I were a guy, I would certainly feel glad about being called cute because someone is appreciating me.
Maybe the word is overused or used inappropriately by some women (check mirror) and her foisting it on half the population is a bit odd.
As far as straight men are concerned, the act of another adult doing something cute, or another adult being visually cute, is reserved for the opposite sex. Period.
Among heterosexual males, there are 'unspoken rules'. Those rules include certain 'words' (spoken and unspoken) 'mannerisms', 'behaviors' and lastly but certainly not least 'rules of engagement' with each other...up to and including: how to approach and knock on a boss' door...or to the door necessary to open, before engaging in a job-interview, business-meeting or political/financial-discussion of some sort. This also involves how to offer one's hand (for a handshake) who offers the hand first, and how 'firm' or 'limp' the handshake is, is definitely 'judged' by the person who is 'higher-up' than the other.
It occurs to me that you ladies might not even be aware that us guys even have 'unspoken rules of engagement' while in the men's room. If there's two urinals right next to each other...not much to decide, but what if there's three, four or five, where does one stand ? conversation ? look at the wall or each other ? etc, etc...
Oh yes...there ARE rules...and men are (by and large) COMFORTABLE with the rules. It just makes things go...smoother.
The male (of the human-species) was imbued with the very same 'fight or flight' instinct that most in the animal-kingdom were, and I suspect that it'll take quite a few more millennia before those instincts are 'erased' from the human-psyche, so...to the OP I have only this to say:
GOOD LUCK with your 'not-quite-so-ambiguous-crusade-against-masculinity' as you would have us believe you are NOT really trying to initiate here.
NATURE will have it's 'way' and/or decide the 'fate' of the future of humanity, rather than YOU or the rest of your 'oh-so progressive thinking' generation.
You wanna ice-skate uphill, that's your choice, but keep in mind you're not the only one who'se tried. Many have gone before you, down this same road, and....well....look around.
Guys are STILL guys, we do what we do, and we're probably just gonna keep-on keeping-on.
:: shrugs ::
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