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OP: You got a lot of good suggestions for YOURSELF. Your husband is married to the bottle it sounds like. My mother's husband was too but her 3 children took a huge place in her life and she stayed in that marriage 63 yrs until her death.
It's not been mentioned but get to Alanon group and get active with this group of people in the same boat, living with addiction.
I ended up married to a person who loved the bottle as did my daughter. Both are ex husbands are dead. And the Program saved our lives.
You are not old by any stretch of the imagination. I don't feel real old at 79, getting older of course, but a good mind. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and take actions. As far as hating everything, there is so MUCH GOODNESS out there. Change Your Mind....
I am so miserable everyday. I hate my job, my husband has no interest in me.
I'm old (almost 43) no kids so no purpose (as I always hear from friends who think the only purpose is to have kids). The only thing that keeps me somewhat functioning each day is walking 2 or 3 miles and/or 30 minute on the elliptical. I've tried meds nothing works. Talking to someone doesn't help either.
I don't know how much longer I can handle this. Everyday all I feel is anger. I used to feel like crying but I have trouble even doing that anymore. I feel so ugly (even though I've always been told I'm pretty) I always put on makeup but now just do it so people don't ask if I'm sick. I'm on thyroid meds, cholesterol meds and just feel old and sick and depressed and hate everything.
Part of this could be related to nutrition. You may have zinc deficiency:
There are many deficiencies we could be suffering with. Even being on the WRONG thyroid med and incorret dose. This is a big one. Vit D is big in our population re: deficiency.
You think it's better to have a husband you aren't happy with or be single? I don't really have any interest in finding someone else and going through tons of rejection but don't want to be alone either.
You think it's better to have a husband you aren't happy with or be single? I don't really have any interest in finding someone else and going through tons of rejection but don't want to be alone either.
Would you care to address any of the posts in this thread containing advice on how to take care of your body and mind?
You think it's better to have a husband you aren't happy with or be single? I don't really have any interest in finding someone else and going through tons of rejection but don't want to be alone either.
OP~
Have you had your hormone level's checked. Believe me, it's actually very common for peri-menopausal symptoms to affect your impressions of just about everything you interact with. During this time, the fluctuations cause mood swings and the swings often swing further and further both sides.. but it's the negative often hits the hardest! Also, self-worth suffers because unbeknown to you.. you subconsciously blame yourself and your inability to deal with daily interactions. Self-esteem goes down, and eventually sadness leads to anger.. including getting those dreaded hackles at your neck!
I recall believing that light turned red because it knew I was coming.. response would be fuming at red light then gunning the engine when green light happened!! Slowly I became aware of it.. and started to meditate in order to get more centred then decided to get hormone's checked. Sure enough.. I found out I had levels indicative of hormonal depletions (imbalance) and for short period went on replacements. I too was young.. in fact younger than yourself.. so my Dr. was sceptical and was shocked when saw those results!!
Anyway, Please do try to be more proactive surrounding yourself .. Try to see both sides of things.. always look for the upside because isolating yourself is NOT helpful and actually escalates the symptoms!! Best of luck though.
I am so miserable everyday. I hate my job, my husband has no interest in me.
I'm old (almost 43) no kids so no purpose (as I always hear from friends who think the only purpose is to have kids). The only thing that keeps me somewhat functioning each day is walking 2 or 3 miles and/or 30 minute on the elliptical. I've tried meds nothing works. Talking to someone doesn't help either.
I don't know how much longer I can handle this. Everyday all I feel is anger. I used to feel like crying but I have trouble even doing that anymore. I feel so ugly (even though I've always been told I'm pretty) I always put on makeup but now just do it so people don't ask if I'm sick. I'm on thyroid meds, cholesterol meds and just feel old and sick and depressed and hate everything.
I take Thyroid meds too and I can relate. Have you any pets or thought about getting any? It really helps (if you like them). I got a few yrs on you, but I know where you're coming from.
So what's stopping you from changing your life? I don't think a pill is going to fix your unhappiness. I went through this with one of my besties. Her husband had prostate cancer in his early 49's which ended their sex life. He now has leukemia and is difficult to live with. There is no affection and really no love at all. She gave up a good paying job because his promotion at the same place made him her boss, and she had to quit. He was since fired from the position which left them in a terrible bind. She became paralyzed emotionally. After years of trying to get her out of the house to do something she finally took my advice. She took a job for very little pay, but one that makes her happy. She also took a trip recently with two of her children to visit a friend in California. She's a different person now. Years of pills and visiting a therapist didn't do much to help her. The bottom line is that we are all solely responsible for our happiness. Change your life. Find the courage and make yourself happy.
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