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It's like blinking really slowly. It gives the impression they are too good for you and are know it alls. I know 3 people who have done this to me, like they are superior to me and I resent this behavior. If you think you are too good to talk to me, why bother?
It must be some kind of reflex or something. My college roommate first semester did this and I truly felt like she thought she was queen of the dorm room.
It's like blinking really slowly. It gives the impression they are too good for you and are know it alls. I know 3 people who have done this to me, like they are superior to me and I resent this behavior. If you think you are too good to talk to me, why bother?
It must be some kind of reflex or something. My college roommate first semester did this and I truly felt like she thought she was queen of the dorm room.
Oh, no, it's not arrogance. It's a nervous tic.
I've always heard it described as an involuntary way of coping with anxiety. She's too nervous to look you directly in the eye.
It's like blinking really slowly. It gives the impression they are too good for you and are know it alls. I know 3 people who have done this to me, like they are superior to me and I resent this behavior. If you think you are too good to talk to me, why bother?
It must be some kind of reflex or something. My college roommate first semester did this and I truly felt like she thought she was queen of the dorm room.
If they're introverts, they are trying to focus to ensure that what they're saying is correct. Particularly if there is noise or another distraction.
I do this at work sometimes. They're not viewing themselves as superior; to the contrary, they care enough about you to think about what they're saying and ensure that it's right.
I don't see this happening, but I have a good friend and when we are together recently and go for dinner etc, she gets real tired and starts to close eyes...she's been dx'd with afib in recent years so there could be connection, don't know. She is on heart meds.
Another friend tends to dose of when talking to her on occasion. She too has a heart issue and on heart med.
Meds can do a job. Otherwise I've not seen this in my long life.
You knowing three people who have done this behavior with you is unusual - most people do not encounter this behavior from others......
this behavior can mean that they are trying to be patient with an exasperating person.
It is a behavior done to gather oneself into a patient mode with someone who requires patience to deal with or to talk to.
(as you describe it, it isn't just not looking directly into your eyes, but is a slow-blinking and lowering of the eyelids - I agree that it can be interpreted as the person feeling superior or exasperated)
The behavior is also exhibited by people who are thinking about what they want to say and organizing their thoughts to verbalize the thoughts.
Last edited by matisse12; 12-24-2018 at 04:20 PM..
You knowing three people who have done this behavior with you is unusual - most people do not encounter this behavior from others......
Yes, I'm trying to visualize this and I can't. If people do this to me, I don't notice. That could be because *I* have trouble maintaining eye contact if I'm not comfortable with the person for one reason or another.
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