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I do. We would dive into different things like the meaning of life, each others concerns, joys, philosophy, just name it. Sometimes we would chat for 2 hours straight or more and you know what? Time flies while you are at it.
Its so enriching to be able to explore each others point of view, accepting different opinions. Im a thinker and a "deep" person. My friends know that and we we would not engage into topics like the weather. Besides convos on a deeper level broaden each others horizon.
I do, but there aren't many people interested to have a deep conversation.
Most want a light chit-chat about nothing.
I agree as I hate meaningless chit-chat. I'm the one who, at a cocktail party, will spend the evening sitting in a corner deep in conversation with one other person.
I would rather talk about automatic transmission torque converters or how differentials work, but that's me. There is a rather limited audience for that, but fortunately, there is YouTube.
I do, but there aren't many people interested to have a deep conversation.
Most want a light chit-chat about nothing.
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Originally Posted by Nefret
I agree as I hate meaningless chit-chat. I'm the one who, at a cocktail party, will spend the evening sitting in a corner deep in conversation with one other person.
Me too. In young adulthood I found it much easier to have these types of conversations. Lately it seems like differing views are more present. It's not that I want people to agree, it's more that people can get hung up on something and then that issue can dominate the conversation.
As for so many other things, I'd answer that question with "it depends". It can depend on which friend and also the topic. I don't have many friends but the ones I do have I tend to keep for many years. We have profound conversations fairly often because we know each other very well. If we never got past the more superficial level with each other chances are the friendship would never have lasted that long.
Then there's the topic...a couple of friends and I have learned that some topics are best left alone because our views about them don't mesh well. We love and respect each other and don't want to lose the friendship so we leave that topic alone. Doesn't mean we aren't close or incapable of having deep discussions, just not about that one thing. I have one overseas friend of 14 years. We talk about any and all profound things but we've never even met in person.
I'm also someone who prefers deeper conversations. Never been any good at small talk.
I do, but there aren't many people interested to have a deep conversation.
Most want a light chit-chat about nothing.
This, exactly. OP, where do you find people interested in more than just fluff? They're a rare breed. Interestingly, in E Europe, they're much more common. Deep topics, but also intellectual topics, like archaeology, aspects of history, philosophy, etc.
I would rather talk about automatic transmission torque converters or how differentials work, but that's me. There is a rather limited audience for that, but fortunately, there is YouTube.
Is the thread about gender specific interest differences between men and women, or about whether one desires to have deep conversations with platonic friends?
I live for meaningful conversations, and don't really enjoy small talk, although it is a necessary evil.
I have a handful of close girlfriends that enjoy meaningful conversations as well but my BFF and I, we take it to a whole other level. We don't talk too often which might make it easier for those meaningful conversations. I don't think you can be in constant contact with someone and have it not end up as mindless chitchat. It serves a purpose but I don't prefer it.
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