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Hypothetical scenario (ha, we all know what that means):
Let's say that I'm interested in finding a successful man in his 30's who's interested in a relationship. He's the type that likes to wine and dine, fairly easy going and fun (outside of work, of course), in relatively good shape, and not married (obviously).
Where would these guys most likely be found in Raleigh?
I'm just tossing this question out there. And no, I am not looking for a sugar daddy. Believe it or not, some college girls are not into the sloppy and sweaty hookup scene. Besides, I look better in a dress and heels out at dinner than at a frat party.
There seems to be a contradiction here. If you want to be wined and dined, a sure fire way to make it NOT happen is to ask for it.....just sayin'.
Not quite. I'm simply pointing out a preference, ie: I prefer men who enjoy going out to nice restaurants and are fairly knowledgeable and interested in wine.
Maybe you ought to try some online dating service. Being a single female, I'm sure you have some idea of where single men hang out; i.e., places where people work out; your place of employment; grocery stores; the beach; downtown Raleigh.
Take a class that you're interested in like art, cooking, yoga. It's not a matter of searching for a guy, it's more a matter of your doing things that you're interested in and perhaps finding someone you like at the same time.
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toodie
Like toodie said, do what you're interested in. If you want to find someone else who likes to eat at nice restaurants and is interested in wine, go to wine tastings and frequent the places you would want to go with said guy. Many of the nice restaurants in the area have lounges or bars, so you can socialize without having to have a formal sit-down meal. Some of the wine stores do tastings, such as the Seaboard Wine Warehouse and Wine Merchant.
Doing something you like in order to find a mate/gf/bf/sig. other doesn't work for some people. I found my wife using an online dating service because I used to spend most of my time in bars back then and I was looking for a woman who wasn't into the bar scene. The good thing about online dating is that you can correspond via email before meeting the person and have a reasonable expectation of hitting it off once you meet (assuming the person passes whatever sniff test you set up before creating your profile).
Doing something you like in order to find a mate/gf/bf/sig. other doesn't work for some people. I found my wife using an online dating service because I used to spend most of my time in bars back then and I was looking for a woman who wasn't into the bar scene. The good thing about online dating is that you can correspond via email before meeting the person and have a reasonable expectation of hitting it off once you meet (assuming the person passes whatever sniff test you set up before creating your profile).
You're not alone .. Time magazine had an interesting stat last week - 30% of US couples surveyed between 2007 and 2009 first met online.
Useless data point - we know two couples that met for the first time at a cooking class.
Men don't know where to hang out to find women and vice versa.
I remember back when I was single many years ago and attended a "Travel Writing" class. I wasn't looking for anyone, seriously. But the class was filled with wonderful women who were!
Same with other events -- at a theater in Rochester, they'd have special singles events, and it would be 99 percent women in attendance. The one man was very happy and later wrote articles entitled, "Where the Single Women are in Rochester." Seriously.
You shouldn't be asking yourself what YOU enjoy. If you're a man, ask what interests WOMEN enjoy, and go. If you're a woman, check out male-dominated activities.
Be careful on choosing the right activity. My husband had this very same idea in his single days and took an interior design course at Peace College, for the sole purpose of meeting women. He had no interest in interior design. Of course, all the female students just assumed he was gay.
P.S. OP, if you're in college, you'll most likely never be around more eligible men at any other time in your life.
What about going to some of the local wine tasting events?
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And no, I am not looking for a sugar daddy. Believe it or not, some college girls are not into the sloppy and sweaty hookup scene. Besides, I look better in a dress and heels out at dinner than at a frat party.
