Pre-marital counseling in Raleigh (Hillsborough, Norman: wedding, live, moving to)
Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill, CaryThe Triangle Area
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Me and my boyfriend are talking engagement and marriage pretty soon. (Yay exciting!!!!) Pre-marital classes and/or therapy is pretty important to us. We're not really looking to do it through a church or anything, since we're not very religious. Any hints? Anyone had a good therapist or counselor they saw before getting married?
I'm not suggesting that this take place of classes/counseling, but my husband and I slowly worked through the book 1,001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married during our engagement and it was WONDERFUL. So many things came up from the book that otherwise we wouldn't have even thought to discuss, and we have good memories of going through it on road trips, picnics in the park, etc. Some tough questions too, but that's a good thing. An early congrats to you two and good job on planning for the marriage (instead of just the wedding!).
I'm not suggesting that this take place of classes/counseling, but my husband and I slowly worked through the book 1,001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married during our engagement and it was WONDERFUL. So many things came up from the book that otherwise we wouldn't have even thought to discuss, and we have good memories of going through it on road trips, picnics in the park, etc. Some tough questions too, but that's a good thing. An early congrats to you two and good job on planning for the marriage (instead of just the wedding!).
i'd highly recommend this book, as well -- at least if it's the one we did which is 101 questions to ask before you get engaged (i think it may be a typo above). it was recommended to us & we found it quite helpful & have recommended it to others.
as for premarital counseling, i don't have a suggestion as we did ours through our church. but hopefully someone can chime in with a recommendaiton. best of luck to you as you navigate this exciting time.
We did ours through Robin Renteria (she's in Hillsborough though), who was also our officiant. Given that my wife is from a Cathloic family and I was raised Buddhist, it was important to find some kind of common ground for us. I thought she was great in settling the uneasiness with the religious differences and teaching us more about proper communication and compromise. In any case, I'd definitely recommend any type of premarital counseling to all couples (the book sounds like a good start too).
I think that book is a fantastic idea. Robin Renteria sounds good too!
I'd be a liar to pretend to know what exactly I'm getting myself into with marriage, so preparation is the best thing I think we can do! Hopefully we can find someone good to help us navigate some of the tougher questions we need to ask before marriage.
The one I did was by Monica Leahy so it must be two different books. I don't know if you can get through 2 books worth of questions but you can certainly try!
My wife and I (married 5 months ago) lived together for 6 years prior to being married. I don't think you know someone until you live with them for at least 6-12 months. Now that were married it doesn't feel very different than before. It sounds like a bad thing, but I don't see how we could ever separate. We have been through it all so we can handle anything that comes our way. We had our fair share of struggles in the beginning, but we worked them out. Our next challenge will be moving to Raleigh soon, but I think we will do just fine We looked into counseling, but it seems most are related to the church and we are not religious at all. I wish i knew about that book. It would have been interesting to read.
FYI another tip, is look at moissanite for your ring if he hasn't bought one yet. I spoke to my wife about it before we were engaged and didn't care about diamonds. She said "I don't care what the ring is, I just want a ring". lol The gets nothing but compliments and nobody has any idea it's not a diamond. Her ring would have been $20,000+ if it were diamonds, but I spent much much less than that. She got her dream ring, and we also got to start our marriage off without debt, or wiping out my savings. Feel free to send me a direct message if you have any questions about moissanite. I have done enough research on diamonds and moissanite to make me an expert. Good luck to you both.
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We looked into counseling, but it seems most are related to the church and we are not religious at all. I wish i knew about that book. It would have been interesting to read. 
