Why are so many men my age always broke? (date, how to, girl)
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but it just seems like all the guys I meet for dates online are always broke.
Be free and get outside to meet people. These guys are probably broke because they use all their money for Internet service.
Seriously though, it's the age group that you are in. You can't expect dudes either in school or fresh out to have much to their name. Don't look at what the guy has in his wallet today but rather look for a guy whose on track to have more down the road. I recommend that if you like any of these guys, you turn this situation into a positive: doing free or cheap stuff together is a great way to get to know the real person without all the masks and bling that come with money.
By no means am I trying to seem as if Im better (and I myself have to deal with money issues occasionally) but it just seems like all the guys I meet for dates online are always broke.
It just seems, they never have money to take me out anywhere...or even when I offer to just do something simple like a $1 movie, they cite being broke
I know most women, specially in the west, want/expect/demand to take the initiative, do the approaching, ask women out, be a gentleman, take care of all expenses, put men under observation/tests/probation, etc. But, since guys are not asking you out, how about you doing it all for a guy? What holds you?
If men find a girl attractive, they don't care if she's broke, has a career/degree, has her own transportation, etc. As long as they find her attractive and nice to hang out with, they'll take care of her without the need of tests/observations/probations/etc.
By no means am I trying to seem as if Im better (and I myself have to deal with money issues occasionally) but it just seems like all the guys I meet for dates online are always broke.
It just seems, they never have money to take me out anywhere...or even when I offer to just do something simple like a $1 movie, they cite being broke. In my case, I don't even log onto my dating profile if I dont have gas or money that day.
Its just like, is this what the internet attracts? Older men with money and younger broke men? It just seems my past few dates have been with guys like this and its just making me wonder whether its a bi-product of online dating, the lingering economy, the city Im at, or just a day in the life of a early/mid 20's something dating scenario.
Either way, its becoming a drain. Its hard to enjoy a real dating relationship when its not equal footing. Its like the Billy Preston song....
Ha-ha, wait till they go through a wife or two and a bunch of kids! Not everybody leaves exes better off than they were before, like I do! Instead of indulging myself, I the idiot was saving and working towards the common good!
By no means am I trying to seem as if Im better (and I myself have to deal with money issues occasionally) but it just seems like all the guys I meet for dates online are always broke.
It just seems, they never have money to take me out anywhere...or even when I offer to just do something simple like a $1 movie, they cite being broke. In my case, I don't even log onto my dating profile if I dont have gas or money that day.
Its just like, is this what the internet attracts? Older men with money and younger broke men? It just seems my past few dates have been with guys like this and its just making me wonder whether its a bi-product of online dating, the lingering economy, the city Im at, or just a day in the life of a early/mid 20's something dating scenario.
Either way, its becoming a drain. Its hard to enjoy a real dating relationship when its not equal footing. Its like the Billy Preston song....
It's not just online, younger men who are well off are just not as common. Young men are just starting out. You have this fact coupled with the stigma of being a young male (Young males are always out for trouble) which keeps them from getting a good job.
Then there is the economy and other things like that. Face it. If you want someone with a lot of money, you may have to go for someone just a little older than what you usually go for.
I have no problem if a guy is broke due to loans, bills, or the fact that he's still in school. I understand that because I'm broke myself-ha! However, if I do have a something left in my checking account and want to hang out, I'm still willing to pay for him. Money does not stop me from hanging out with him! We can always do cheap and fun activities like walk in downtown and take pictures! Buy one smoothie that we can share. That's all.
But if he's just lazy and not willing to work....Forget it!
I know it has already been asked, but I will ask it again: what is your age? What is the age of the guys you are targeting?
And what type of guy are you looking for? When a guy says he's a "professional musician," for example, that often means "I get paid cash for gigs then I can get them" -- and that's not usually a path to financial security. What kind of guys are you rejecting? Are you, for example, ignoring guys who are a bit older and, hence, more likely to be established in their career?
Finally, where do you live? Flint, Michigan, and Camden, New Jersey, are not generally known as employment and economic powerhouses. Are you searching for a guy in an economically depressed part of the country? Economic conditions vary dramatically from place to place in the U.S.
I am not broke, but i am not financially secure either. I pay for mortgage/bills, food, transportation, gas, insurance, entertainment. I do have some money left after all that but I can see how an emergency or something not planned could leave me broke...
By no means am I trying to seem as if Im better (and I myself have to deal with money issues occasionally) but it just seems like all the guys I meet for dates online are always broke.
It just seems, they never have money to take me out anywhere...or even when I offer to just do something simple like a $1 movie, they cite being broke. In my case, I don't even log onto my dating profile if I dont have gas or money that day.
Its just like, is this what the internet attracts? Older men with money and younger broke men? It just seems my past few dates have been with guys like this and its just making me wonder whether its a bi-product of online dating, the lingering economy, the city Im at, or just a day in the life of a early/mid 20's something dating scenario.
Either way, its becoming a drain. Its hard to enjoy a real dating relationship when its not equal footing. Its like the Billy Preston song....
It looks like some younger men are under the impression that women are desperate (especially the ones doing online dating) therefore in his mind he's doing you a favour by going out with you. So why should he pay? Don't believe for a second that he doesn't have money to spend, he just doesn't want to spend it on you.
Are these men REALLY broke, unemployed, low paying job, etc? Or are they just plain old tightwads?
Find out more about them before planning a date.
Also, if you are working, even if you don't make as much as he does, most men would appreciate a woman who offers to pay for the dates sometimes. It is 2010, not 1950.
If you can't do that, then at least invite him over to your place for a romantic, home cooked meal. And don't forget the nice table setting, flowers, wine, maybe a little candle light.
This does not mean that you have to "put-out" on the first couple of dates, either. Don't. It's wise to wait awhile. Get to know him and know you like him.
Hey, it's summer and there are lots of cool things to do now that won't cost anything.
Pack a picnick lunch and play in the park. It's great to feel like a kid again at times.
Good luck. Real men ARE out there! You'll find him.
Last edited by WestWillow; 07-19-2010 at 01:56 PM..
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Not everybody leaves exes better off than they were before, like I do!
Instead of indulging myself, I the idiot was saving and working towards the common good!
That's all.
