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How do I respond to this? No flaming here, I just need some advice on how to answer.
Relative: Our third anniversary is coming up.
Me: Anniversary?
Relative: Yes we have been living together for three years.
Me:............
Personally I do not celebrate not married couples move in dates. Just my belief. However I do know I am in the minority now so I will roll with the idea.
How can I acknowledge while staying off the soapbox?
The word you are looking for is "congratulations".
Ok, you don't celebrate people living together - but they do. Try to remember, it's not about you. No one is asking for your permission. Wishing them well is not an endorcement of their life - for heaven sake! A bit of grace would not be out of line.
I understand where you are coming from - but from a different view. I don't celebrate what I consider unhappy marriages, certain holidays, and I won't attend weddings of people I consider are making a mistake. Still, there is no harm is wishing others well.
How do I respond to this? No flaming here, I just need some advice on how to answer.
Relative: Our third anniversary is coming up.
Me: Anniversary?
Relative: Yes we have been living together for three years.
Me:............
Personally I do not celebrate not married couples move in dates. Just my belief. However I do know I am in the minority now so I will roll with the idea.
How can I acknowledge while staying off the soapbox?
And I thank you for your ideas.
I tend to agree. I see no reason to celebrate living together. Now being in a relationship (married or not) yes that deserves some celebration. If your "person" is talking about celebrating this "anniversary", I'd have a little chat explaining why you don't see it as a reason to celebrate and maybe get their opinion as to why they do see it as a reason... Good luck!
The word you are looking for is "congratulations".
Ok, you don't celebrate people living together - but they do. Try to remember, it's not about you. No one is asking for your permission. Wishing them well is not an endorcement of their life - for heaven sake! A bit of grace would not be out of line.
I understand where you are coming from - but from a different view. I don't celebrate what I consider unhappy marriages, certain holidays, and I won't attend weddings of people I consider are making a mistake. Still, there is no harm is wishing others well.
Yes I see your point, how about I just ask if they are doing anything special? Then I can acknowledge the event?
I tend to agree. I see no reason to celebrate living together. Now being in a relationship (married or not) yes that deserves some celebration. If your "person" is talking about celebrating this "anniversary", I'd have a little chat explaining why you don't see it as a reason to celebrate and maybe get their opinion as to why they do see it as a reason... Good luck!
Pretty sure this person is aware of my beliefs on this, I am just trying to steer clear of conflict as this person is a drama llama!
My boyfriend and I have known one another for 5 yrs and have lived together for 4.We don't look for nor need anyones validation for our chosen living arrangements.All we expect is respect and a simple Congrats.Yes we do celebrate and wish one another happy Anniversary.
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