Help me give a good answer to the living together validation

[Mt-7]

Originally Posted by ashcody

Well, that would be annoying. I was going to elaborate but I don't want to preach why cohabitation works for ME.

LOL, you are a wise one...
Maybe I should have asked for advise on how to deal with the annoying relative

So many changes in the world in my life, I could go on but that would be long winded.

[another_hot-day]

I would say, "Right on. So where's the celebration beer?"

[kaykay]

Originally Posted by Mt-7

Good response but my hubs would think I was stirring the pot. LOL>
I think if folks want to marry they will without prodding. So sad that society does not seem to encourage it.
But I am staying on topic here.

Again, yes, you would have to know your audience.

But also, consider this...you said in post # 8 that you're pretty sure that this person who brought this up to you either knows or suspects you don't approve. So they're "stirring the pot a little" themselves by bringing it up to YOU, no?

[Mt-7]

Originally Posted by another_hot-day

I would say, "Right on. So where's the celebration beer?"

Or whiskey

[Mt-7]

Originally Posted by kaykay

Again, yes, you would have to know your audience.

But also, consider this...you said in post # 8 that you're pretty sure that this person who brought this up to you either knows or suspects you don't approve. So they're "stirring the pot a little" themselves by bringing it up to YOU, no?

Most defiantly!
Hence the need for an air deflating response.

[notfriedkasei]

Originally Posted by Mt-7

No, this is someone who loudly proclaims at all family get togethers, that they have been together x number of years. I think it is a need for validation.

Yes, that does just sound annoying. If it weren't for the relationship, there'd likely be something else loudly proclaimed at every gathering, then. But that's a personality issue ... not a relationship issue.

[yellowsnow]

I always thought 3 years of living and loving each other was something worth celebrating. A great chance to be romantic and caring.

Don't think it matter for anyone but the two of you. Marriage or not, 3 years is a big deal. Maybe it's strange but I don't ever want to miss a chance to be thankful and kind to my partner.

[Mt-7]

Well we take love where we can get it.
BTW me and hubs have been married 28 years.

[johnnytang24]

I don't get it. Were you in the middle of a conversation and that was related? Did they just mention it out of the blue? It makes no sense to me. If someone just popped that tidbit of information up, my response would have been, "Ok, and?"

I certainly wouldn't congratulate them, not because I have anything against living together, but:
a) Why should they be congratulated on living together? If they enjoy each others company, wouldn't they want to be together? Is this some hardship they've managed to suffer through and overcome?
b) By bringing it up, they obviously want my congratulations. To me, that is asking for approval. Why do they need my approval?