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Maybe it's all in the eyes and mind of the person that is looking at the couple and judging which one of the two is ugly and/or attractive and not the couple themselves?
Let me elaborate. While at work I was thinking (instead of working). How many people believe that unattractive or ugly people have no right or are hypoctites for only wanting very attractive people? Is that a clear question? This is most noticeable when one unattractive person asks out another unattractive person just to get shot down for not being attractive. Or when an attractive person brings on the whole "back off, your out of your league". Do many people believe in "leagues"? Or do you believe in the whole Hitch movie theory. That anyone can sweep anyone off their feet if they have the right broom.
Yesssss, anyone can sweep anyone off their feet. My friends and even my boyfriends' friends say we're an unlikely couple. He's this balding chubby bearded guy that stands about 6'2'' and i'm a petite Asian girl (see pictures) and they constantly say, "how did you scoop a peice of ass like that?". Well, there's one answer. He's incredibly nice, generous, hilarious and giving. Doesn't matter about what he looks like, that fool makes me smile.
Also, I just read this over again and I sound narcisstic. I don't mean it at all. :\
Let me elaborate. While at work I was thinking (instead of working). How many people believe that unattractive or ugly people have no right or are hypoctites for only wanting very attractive people? Is that a clear question? This is most noticeable when one unattractive person asks out another unattractive person just to get shot down for not being attractive. Or when an attractive person brings on the whole "back off, your out of your league". Do many people believe in "leagues"? Or do you believe in the whole Hitch movie theory. That anyone can sweep anyone off their feet if they have the right broom.
Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. Just because you or I might think that someone is unattractive, to someone else they could be gorgeous. I have always liked a more "rugged" looking man, and I tend to like men with big noses. Most women would not find actor Robert Davi attractive in the "traditional sense" but I have always had a thing for him. Not so much because of his looks but because he is a very refined and articulate person despite his appearance. The same goes for F. Murray Abraham who is very sophisticated in his demeanor even though he is not textbook handsome, by any means.
I guess what I am trying to say is that in the grand scheme of things outward appearance often is not a true indicator of how beautiful a person is inwardly.
Of course each of us should be demanding whatever it is that makes us happy, not what others believe we should settle for (he's not good enough for you, he's too much for you, blablablah). Besides, some attractive people pay no attention to physical beauty in others and look for other qualities instead. As a matter of fact, most naturally, (relatively) efortlessly beautiful people I know are rather indifferent regarding other people's looks.
Wow this post exploded fast! It seems a few posts state that most people stay within their level of attractiveness (ie. Ugly w/ ugly, hot w/ hot) Others believe everyone's entitled to WANT whatever they want, but it doesn't mean they will obtain it.
Without touching the topic of reverse racism I believe anyone can get what they are looking for. Only problem is given the way society views unattractive people. The media alone insures difficulty if your level of attractiveness is not up to par. Some people as stated by hitch actually need to be tricked out of their own way so they can give others a chance. Now you don't need to get as extreme as hitch but a certain level of clever confident behavior is required. Sometimes in order to win the "top of the league" you need to play the game and become who they want (they just won't know it yet). Now this is in no way gaurantees you a good relationship. You may infact realize the person you want doesn't meet YOUR standards of a human being (given you have to play games to get them that's usually the case). The best thing to do is take care of your mind and body the best you can (its only fair for the person you want) and try to show your best traits. If the person shoots you down (relax and try with someone else). Learn from your mistakes and try not repeat past ones. A determined mind can obtain anything.
Why wouldn't they have a right to that? What, should there be a special agency that tells you who you can find attractive based on a complex algorithm that determines your own level of attractiveness?
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). How many people believe that unattractive or ugly people have no right or are hypoctites for only wanting very attractive people? Is that a clear question? This is most noticeable when one unattractive person asks out another unattractive person just to get shot down for not being attractive. Or when an attractive person brings on the whole "back off, your out of your league". Do many people believe in "leagues"? Or do you believe in the whole Hitch movie theory. That anyone can sweep anyone off their feet if they have the right broom.
why bother?
to pursue happiness. While everybody tries to do it, not everybody catches it.
). Now this is in no way gaurantees you a good relationship. You may infact realize the person you want doesn't meet YOUR standards of a human being (given you have to play games to get them that's usually the case). The best thing to do is take care of your mind and body the best you can (its only fair for the person you want) and try to show your best traits. If the person shoots you down (relax and try with someone else). Learn from your mistakes and try not repeat past ones. A determined mind can obtain anything.
