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Hmm, Dear Abby answered this one time and her advice was to not tell, because you're selfishly making yourself feel better by relieving your conscience, but the other person will feel worse.
I would have no desire to cheat with anyone for any reason. I love my husband totally, unconditionally, endlessly. I would be repulsed to even consider being with anyone else, ever.
I guess the answer would be NO.
20yrsinBranson
We always agree on this point
Whether I could "get away with it" or not has nothing to do with it - I have absolutely no desire to be with anyone other the the man of my dreams, my husband
I would never cheat on my husband. I got married for a reason - I love him.
Hypothetically, if I ever did cheat (I have been sort of guilty of this in past relationships - not marriages) - I would have to tell my SO. I have such a huge guilt complex that I wouldn't be able to eat, sleep, or do anything until I had a clean conscience and had face the consequences. The relationships might be over - but I couldn't live with myself if I didn't fess up.
Hmmm, I don't know, if my husband cheated on me, I would want to know. For me personally, I would rather be in pain, than live in ignorant bliss or living a lie. Just speaking from myself.
If I was married and it wasn't an open marriage I would keep my mouth shut (If it was a one time thing). If it was a relationship I would be gone anyway.
Nobody on here is going to admit to cheating even though I'm sure 25%-50% or MORE have or will be somehow involved in one. It's the dirty little secret that will get you flamed here and everywhere else if you say you have.
Either You have had an affair or fling while being married, you have seen someone who was married, or you have seen a proffessional (Escort, hooker, whatever). This definately does not apply to only married men. I have had 2 affairs with married woman in my life. Not afraid of saying it one bit. One never ended in nothing more than heavy petting, but I'll count it anyway.
The first was a Mrs Robinson situation when I was 19. She was chasing after me like Oprah diving for the last twinkie in the box. She was a neglected bored housewife. Husband caught up to me and chased me around my car when he found out, while I was yelling at him to take care of his wife and he wouldn't be in the situation! Never went to bed with her but the petting was heavy enough to call it sex? After the conversation with the husband I asked her to stop calling me.
2nd woman was a few years later. She was also a bored house wife whose son just moved out. Husband vegged on the couch or was at the bar all of the time. She had said he had an affair at one time and that opened the door for her to do the same. She was very matter of fact about the whole situation. She said that he probably knew but wasn't sure if he would care or not. she also said if her needs were being met she probably would not continue seeing other men.
Not saying it's ok, because it is not, at least not in American society. I can say that Americans are in denial of the extent of it and therefore afraid to talk about it openly. I'm sure the men and woman that I know are having some sort of extramarital affair/Fling are only the tip of the iceberg, because of the taboo of talking about it.
Well, now that we've dispensed with all the "I would NEVER do that" kind of nonsense, let's just set the record straight. Stuff like that eventually comes back to haunt you. I've known guys who have had a forgotten fling walk back into their lives after five, ten years. Sorry to burst your bubble.
Like having an abortion. It's done and over but it will aways be there to haunt you.
I totally disagree with this. I know countless women who have had abortions and never give it a second thought. It doesn't "haunt" anyone I've known who has had one. You're putting your feelings onto other people.
As for the original question, I would not cheat, no interest to do so. Even if he never found out, I would know and couldn't live with it.
Well, now that we've dispensed with all the "I would NEVER do that" kind of nonsense, let's just set the record straight. Stuff like that eventually comes back to haunt you. I've known guys who have had a forgotten fling walk back into their lives after five, ten years. Sorry to burst your bubble.
I agree. If it's not your consciousness, than the actual person can come back eventually and ruin your life.
If I got the nerve to cheat on my husband, it would eat me alive and our relationship would be ruined anyway. I just know myself too well, I've got the Jewish guilt.
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