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I know you said you don't mind paying, but picnics and going for a walk during a sunset is actually pretty romantic. It's less expensive, and it sets up a great atmosphere for the rest of the evening.
On one hand I do feel it's fair that I pay and I completely agree that the costs should be split so it's not all him.
But to ask me to, i don't know, there's just something off about that to me
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Originally Posted by sierraAZ
Then I like it even less. You still could've done something inexpensive, though - like making something to eat at home (if you visit each other's places by now), buying movie tickets, or drinks, or something once. Perhaps he got the idea you're just using him to go out...
but we're not doing anything expensive, we're going to the museum. It's like $10 a person. not that expensive right?
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Originally Posted by greatblueheron
I think these days both should share in costs....he paid for a month or so but asking you outright...perhaps he was not sure how to approach the subject with you for discussion.
How do you feel? Maybe you could split costs on each date, or you pay one time and he the next.......that seems fair to me, and I am female.
If you really like him, find an agreeable way to make it work!
I feel like it's fair, but to ask me makes the whole thing feel awkward to me.
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Originally Posted by CarolVa1977
I just feel that if a guy wants to see you he should pay. I completely understand why you don't want to see him again.
lol i do want to see him again. just having mixed feelings
I just feel that if a guy wants to see you he should pay. I completely understand why you don't want to see him again.
I think that's how strippers feel!I think he just went about it all wrong, I would just ask if he is afraid you are using him? See what he says and then decide to see him or not!
Money isn't an issue for me, but if it was, as it is in you and your boyfriends case then I would expect her to contribute. Women want equality, then it should be consistant in all forms.
Not sure that I would even want to keep seeing him, frankly. You can offer to pay whenever you want but I think it's very bad form for him to ASK you to do so. Sounds like a couple of posters here on CD, in fact.
I think these days both should share in costs....he paid for a month or so but asking you outright...perhaps he was not sure how to approach the subject with you for discussion.
How do you feel? Maybe you could split costs on each date, or you pay one time and he the next.......that seems fair to me, and I am female.
If you really like him, find an agreeable way to make it work!
I think that's how strippers feel!I think he just went about it all wrong, I would just ask if he is afraid you are using him? See what he says and then decide to see him or not!
I personally do not like cheap men. I am very successfully financially and tend to date men that are as well. And most men pay. And I do not sleep with any of them
I personally do not like cheap men. I am very successfully financially and tend to date men that are as well. And most men pay. And I do not sleep with any of them
If a man offers to pay is his choice. If he asks me to pay it is mychoice to decline any furthe invitations. But to be fair...if a man does not make more money than i do I will probably won't date him. My days of worry about money are over.
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