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I know this girl that works near me. I guess you could say we are neighbors. I have seen her a handful of times in the last couple months. Anyway, I have been infatuated since the first time I saw her. I make small talk with other neighbors, but for her I act sort of weird due to the crush, so I have decided I better just not try to talk to her or pay attention to her unless it's very rude not to.
Anyway, I have been thinking is my infatuation, crush or thinking about her a lot real? On one hand I don't really know her. I get to observe her personality from time to time, but that's it. And on the other hand, I am not like this with other people. I can't think of a time in the last several years that I have just been really into someone, bases on very casual contact with them. So is this all fantasy or in my head or is it possible to sense a connection without really knowing someone?
I know this girl that works near me. I guess you could say we are neighbors. I have seen her a handful of times in the last couple months. Anyway, I have been infatuated since the first time I saw her. I make small talk with other neighbors, but for her I act sort of weird due to the crush, so I have decided I better just not try to talk to her or pay attention to her unless it's very rude not to.
Anyway, I have been thinking is my infatuation, crush or thinking about her a lot real? On one hand I don't really know her. I get to observe her personality from time to time, but that's it. And on the other hand, I am not like this with other people. I can't think of a time in the last several years that I have just been really into someone, bases on very casual contact with them. So is this all fantasy or in my head or is it possible to sense a connection without really knowing someone?
To make it short, yes--Infatuation is real and yes you can sense a connection without really knowing someone.
I know this girl that works near me. I guess you could say we are neighbors. I have seen her a handful of times in the last couple months. Anyway, I have been infatuated since the first time I saw her. I make small talk with other neighbors, but for her I act sort of weird due to the crush, so I have decided I better just not try to talk to her or pay attention to her unless it's very rude not to.
Anyway, I have been thinking is my infatuation, crush or thinking about her a lot real? On one hand I don't really know her. I get to observe her personality from time to time, but that's it. And on the other hand, I am not like this with other people. I can't think of a time in the last several years that I have just been really into someone, bases on very casual contact with them. So is this all fantasy or in my head or is it possible to sense a connection without really knowing someone?
That "connection" you are sensing is called CHEMISTRY, and yes, it is very real.
The ball is in your court, why not actually get to know her now that you know you are attracted to her?
It's real for what it is. You're not hallucinating, you do feel a connection with her. But only time and action will define it. I'm sensing that you're young, and only encourage you to take a shot. You're nervous about talking to her, but think of a specific subject, something that may be of mutual interest, and something that you know a lot about; focusing outside of yourself and the attraction as well, will allow you to relax. If you click, one thing should lead to another and you're saying something like, "Oh, you like Thai food, so do I... or oh, I wanted to check out that comedy club too, or wherever the conversation leads.
Don't pass on it, 'cause it might lead you to some happiness. You don't want to look back on this and kick yourself for being too afraid of rejection to act. This happens to all of us, by the way, no matter how we've tried to seize the day, but you can minimize it. Best of luck to you.
That "connection" you are sensing is called CHEMISTRY, and yes, it is very real.
The ball is in your court, why not actually get to know her now that you know you are attracted to her?
I decided to not even attempt to date anyone for a while. I just have other priorities. I would like to get to know her a little, just as much as my other neighbors, but I can't seem to act normal around her, so I feel that it's better to ignore it for now, at least till my other priorities are out of the way. Another thing is it's harder to let it be know that I am interested in seeing someone that I can't avoid in the future. I can't think, well it doesn't matter if it's not mutual, it's not like I will ever see her again. On the other hand, that gives me the opportunity not to have to act now, because I will see her again and likely for a few years.
Yes, the infatuation is real. The good thing is that you recognized it as just that, infatuation. Nothing wrong with feeling the way you do, it's normal.
A bit frustrating that on City-data forums we have no way of knowing the age or sex of the poster, unless it is mentioned in the content by poster. Having said that, I assume you are a teenager?
Infatuation is caused by initial attraction a lot of it is stemmed by fantasies that ensues. The initial attraction is very real but the fantasies are just that and have little to do with reality. I am personally very weary of women who are infatuated with me and they don't really know much about me. Often those relationships end up in breakup as the infatuation wears out and reality sets in. If you are a teenage, go ahead and enjoy the feeling and even the relationship that may come out of it..these are meant to be learning experiences that will make us matured.
A bit frustrating that on City-data forums we have no way of knowing the age or sex of the poster, unless it is mentioned in the content by poster. Having said that, I assume you are a teenager?
Infatuation is caused by initial attraction a lot of it is stemmed by fantasies that ensues. The initial attraction is very real but the fantasies are just that and have little to do with reality. I am personally very weary of women who are infatuated with me and they don't really know much about me. Often those relationships end up in breakup as the infatuation wears out and reality sets in. If you are a teenage, go ahead and enjoy the feeling and even the relationship that may come out of it..these are meant to be learning experiences that will make us matured.
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Its good that you're atleast aware of it. Infatuation can be very addictive and like any addiction it can make you act in ways you never would have otherwise (either good or bad. Mostly bad). If you feel you want to wait until the feeling passes so you can act normal around her that's your decision. Some people who date based off infatuation luck out and find someone worth keeping. The rest "wake up" sooner or later and the relationship ends once the bubble pops.
lol..I'm not a teenager. I've had a few LTRs and have dated several other women short term. Early infatuation is not at all normal for me. I'm usually more indifferent when I first meet someone, then like them more after becoming acquainted. I don't think the teenage like infatuation is a bad thing in of itself, as long as it's understood. It means there is more chemistry than usual. Reality is important and I'm just wondering what part is reality. I'm sure I sensed something in her personality too that attracted me, so at least that is real. I'm aware that I have no idea what day to day life would be like dating her though. Anyway, I've been putting these thoughts on the back burner for now. I don't think dating someone right now would go well. But from my observation she seems to be a good person. She's nice and friendly to everyone and she works hard. By the time, if ever, anything happens, I'll have more to go off of.
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