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So I've been out with this guy a few times. We have been talking on the phone and such for awhile. He had always been the one initiating calling and contact for the most part. But after both dates he kinda drew back and didn't communicate so much for a few days. Which is fine Im just really confused as to why you would talk to someone on a daily basis then after you see them you don't?? After this second date he's even been communicating less, I know it had nothing to do with his job etc. We get along great and had great dates together. We even had the whole conversation of " do you like me" lol after the second date and he said he was interested....so I don't know why he's sudden being distant. I asked my male friends and they said that he's trying to draw back so that I become the aggressor. But i don't understand if I've already verbally told him how interested I am in him and I have texted him saying hi hows your day etc. And a few times he has just not responded whereas before he Would always respond. I don't know what to think of this, is he still interested? Does he want me to pursue him is that his objective? Or should I just leave him alone? Very confused...
Saying it very gentle: maybe it was OK so long he was only talking with you, but after an eye-to-eye contact, he does not feel so much attraction anymore.
Now, he does not want to hurt your feelings, and try to "withdraw" quietly.
Leave him alone...
So I've been out with this guy a few times. We have been talking on the phone and such for awhile. He had always been the one initiating calling and contact for the most part. But after both dates he kinda drew back and didn't communicate so much for a few days. Which is fine Im just really confused as to why you would talk to someone on a daily basis then after you see them you don't?? After this second date he's even been communicating less, I know it had nothing to do with his job etc. We get along great and had great dates together. We even had the whole conversation of " do you like me" lol after the second date and he said he was interested....so I don't know why he's sudden being distant. I asked my male friends and they said that he's trying to draw back so that I become the aggressor. But i don't understand if I've already verbally told him how interested I am in him and I have texted him saying hi hows your day etc. And a few times he has just not responded whereas before he Would always respond. I don't know what to think of this, is he still interested? Does he want me to pursue him is that his objective? Or should I just leave him alone? Very confused...
could be he was either sick of always having to initiate or he could have lost interest. Did u tell him after the dates that u had a good time or anything or just assumed he would be the one to do it?
Saying it very gentle: maybe it was OK so long he was only talking with you, but after an eye-to-eye contact, he does not feel so much attraction anymore.
Now, he does not want to hurt your feelings, and try to "withdraw" quietly.
Leave him alone...
^ this. I've been in that situation before (I'm the guy). Great conversations on the phone, fun date, but no spark. Really cool girl, but I didn't know how to let her down gently. Ended up going on 3 dates anyways.
Saying it very gentle: maybe it was OK so long he was only talking with you, but after an eye-to-eye contact, he does not feel so much attraction anymore.
Now, he does not want to hurt your feelings, and try to "withdraw" quietly.
Leave him alone...
THIS THIS THIS^^!
OP, you must be either very young, or very inexperienced. If someone is giving signs of not being very interested....then that is a pretty good indication that they aren't. Perhaps he was initially, but for whatever reason (and this reason does not matter) he no longer is. Put him out of your mind, and move on.
Unfortunately for you, time to move on. He isn't trying to play some game to see if you will chase him. He is trying to gracefully, and with as little pain as possible, pull away from you.
If he was really into you, he would be chasing you more. Not less.
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