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I've been seeing this one lady for about 2 months, she has her good points, but things look like they're just dying a slow death....between us...anyway..this is one reason why....
We talked about getting together after I picked her up at work this past Thursday night. Talked about this at least for 5 days.....day before, she tells me her sisters trip out of town unexpectedly came to an end and due to having to wake up early Friday Am to go on a different trip with her, she may not be able to stay with me Thrus nite, but still wanted me to pick her up....fair enough, disappointing, but I get family.
So I meet her at the casino where she works after her work, she playing a machine, next to this other female friend that i had no idea she was going to hang out with after work....however, they were sitting at a place, where there was no way I could join them. I was stunned. I played a machine over 20 feet from them instead and then eventually went to a bar where I had no idea who long this was going to go on.....after, again, I thought me and her had our plans.....
she comes into the place where I was having a drink and waiting for her, and then tells me her friend can give me a ride home if I want......
eventually, they saved me a place, and I sat with them for about 20 minutes (almost 1 hour later), but thanks to the tension, the night ended early between me and the girl I'm seeing.....
I thought she and her could have moved to a different machine (where all 3 of us could sit together) or I could have been asked to stand by my "girlfriend" there until a machine there opened up.....that's what I would have done....
her weak excuse about not doing that was her friend only plays this one game.....
if you were in my shoes, how would you have taken that?
I would not dwell on this, however, it is a bit inconsiderate. If you two have just been dating for 2 short months and this kind of stuff is going on already, I would suggest giving you a *heads up!*
Don`t make a mountain out of a mole hill either. Good luck!
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Originally Posted by crisan
So you stayed back waiting for them to invite you? Did they know you arrived?
Didn't know if it was a girls night out situation......that's why I didn't "invite" myself...
she claims she gave the vibe i was welcome by introducing me to her friend, but she didn't do anything more than that....
until almost 1 hour later...
I've been seeing this one lady for about 2 months, she has her good points, but things look like they're just dying a slow death....between us...anyway..this is one reason why....
We talked about getting together after I picked her up at work this past Thursday night. Talked about this at least for 5 days.....day before, she tells me her sisters trip out of town unexpectedly came to an end and due to having to wake up early Friday Am to go on a different trip with her, she may not be able to stay with me Thrus nite, but still wanted me to pick her up....fair enough, disappointing, but I get family.
So I meet her at the casino where she works after her work, she playing a machine, next to this other female friend that i had no idea she was going to hang out with after work....however, they were sitting at a place, where there was no way I could join them. I was stunned. I played a machine over 20 feet from them instead and then eventually went to a bar where I had no idea who long this was going to go on.....after, again, I thought me and her had our plans.....
she comes into the place where I was having a drink and waiting for her, and then tells me her friend can give me a ride home if I want......
eventually, they saved me a place, and I sat with them for about 20 minutes (almost 1 hour later), but thanks to the tension, the night ended early between me and the girl I'm seeing.....
I thought she and her could have moved to a different machine (where all 3 of us could sit together) or I could have been asked to stand by my "girlfriend" there until a machine there opened up.....that's what I would have done....
her weak excuse about not doing that was her friend only plays this one game.....
if you were in my shoes, how would you have taken that?
I believe the move was intentional, so you would go away, so she could say to her friend "so, what do you think of him?' Possibly even, so should we double team him? In which case, you blew it big time!
Didn't know if it was a girls night out situation......that's why I didn't "invite" myself...
she claims she gave the vibe i was welcome by introducing me to her friend, but she didn't do anything more than that....
until almost 1 hour later...
Here is the thing. I am not dating anymore so maybe it is different in the dating seen. When somebody invites me, I behave like I am wanted and that I am welcome unless they specifically ask for a moment alone. That means I would have walked right on over. Then I would be aware of how people behaved after that. Aware does not mean the same thing as suspicious.
Otherwise, I could be perceived as insecure or a person who is unsure if she likes her friends or not. Either way, I wouldn't want to deal with that.
It's obvious you don't gamble much or often, OP. Once at a machine, if it's giving any kind of return, you don't leave the machine.
BUT, I agree her behavior wasn't welcoming. It appears you and she have not communicated well and what you thought was a date turned out to be just "getting together".
Seems to me you need to clear up some stuff with her -- when she gets back.
BTW, I never heard of a casino employee be permitted to gamble in their own "house". And here in Atlantic City, some employees aren't allowed to gamble in any house along in AC, depends on the position.
Location: Moose Jaw, in between the Moose's butt and nose.
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It's obvious you don't gamble much or often, OP. Once at a machine, if it's giving any kind of return, you don't leave the machine.
BUT, I agree her behavior wasn't welcoming. It appears you and she have not communicated well and what you thought was a date turned out to be just "getting together".
Seems to me you need to clear up some stuff with her -- when she gets back.
BTW, I never heard of a casino employee be permitted to gamble in their own "house". And here in Atlantic City, some employees aren't allowed to gamble in any house along in AC, depends on the position.
I'm not sure if it was giving a return.....but, when we've gambled and she does it a lot more than me, she tries to say don't take it so seriously, it's just for fun, well, with that kind of attitude on her part, I didn't see the big deal in moving to a machine where all 3 of us could have sat together, seeing how, I was (I thought) set to hang with her all night for about 4 days prior and this friend only showed up 30 minutes before she met her without any advance notice....
First of all you had a date....where it was supposed to be a sleepover and yes she cancelled stating family and could you still give her a ride? You were a good sport and very understanding..and stated "yes"
And while the friend showed up unexpectedly? she was off work and allegedly had to be home and could not hang out? And essentially ended up playing slots and stayed anyway? When in reality the time she stated she did not have and all of a sudden did?
The fact that she continued to play slots as you stood behind her? When you WERE doing her a favor? And picking her up and being content with just driving her home and not spending time with her? And she was oblivious ro her own behavior and continued to play slots and have you just stand there for a short while until you got bored and found a slot machine nearby? And then she comes to you after? I don' think so...
Complete disregard and I do not take this lightly...I would have stated about 10 minutes after observing this slot play going on.."Hey I thought you were done after work and you haveto get up early tomorrow? DO YOU STILL NEED A RIDE HOME?"
Nip that **** in the bud...set boundaries and if you want to stay? I know where I stand in the relationship....NEXT....
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