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I would just die with happiness if my man ever bought me lingerie! It is something I have always wanted.
A gift of lingerie would tell me my man finds me sexy and wants to act out his fantasies with me. It would also tell me that he spent time shopping just for me. I mean, how many men really want to shop for a few groceries, much less clothing?
Men are visual creatures. I wouldn't take his purchase as an insult or believe that he doesn't find me sexy just as I am. His whole purpose in buying the lingerie is to get me to take it off, right? Unless he wants the shoes left on, or the garter belt left on, etc., but that's another story.
I would have to draw the line if he wanted to put me in, say, a Grimace suit (like Family Guy). But then again we probably wouldn't be together if he was that far down down the fetish line.
Moose, we have the same concept of "respectable" women who won't accept weird kinks in lingerie
Not sure I am that respectable but thank you.
To me great sex needs to flow naturally, it needs to be wild and unfettered but not something which is premeditated and thought about too much.
I love sex. Always have done and in my mid 40s now I would say my sex life is possibly the best it has ever been. Neither Hubby nor I have ever been into "kinky" stuff but we were very open about our views on sex from the beginning of our relationship so both of us were always on the same page.
There is much variery to be had without having to "dress up" or play "dirty".
For example some people like to talk dirty during sex. First I don't think I am equipped to do it as I really know very few words which would qualify and it is not me to swear or be dominating that I know it would be so artificial as to take the whole pleasure of sex away.
I will never understand why tarty clothes make a man or a woman feel more aroused. I can't say I have ever suffered from a lack of libido . I prefer natural sex.
Maybe it is because to me sex is not dirty. Great sex to me is about this amazing connection both physical , emotional and mental between two human beings. I really fail to see how dressing up like a slutty Christmas tree enhances what is the most natural and most pleasurable of acts.
But as long as both partners are on the same page, as I said then whatever rocks people's boat.
If a man needs a constant change of outfits and scenarios to get an erection then to me it sounds like he is bored. So whatever remedy the boredom.
I have yet to be bored by sex. I can find it wholly satisfying without feeling I have to behave like a porn star and start screaming obscenities at him.
Maybe Hubby and I are just simple minds, simple people who just revel in simple pursuits...
Passion to me comes from the heart, sex can be pretty wild and incredibly orgasmic with a need for slutty flim-flammery and bizarre accoutrements.
Wait - how did I miss that! What does my race have to do with anything? For the record - I'm half Japanese, half Jewish. Both my husband and I are American.
I think he was equating the Japanese with submissive?!!!
I dunno, I don't get his viewpoint at all on this.
Well....if I dressed up like a slutty xmas tree...after we were done laughing our asses off at it...we would TOTALLY makeout. Ha Ha!
My world has more variety and passion I guess. Passion comes from everywhere!
Maybe more variety but I strongly object to "more passion". Passion has little to do with how you dress. I am extremely passionate,
I really fail to see how a slutty garment makes you any more passionate ?!?! Do you really think passion comes from a slutty Santa outfit. If so how terribly sad.
Passion is the fire in your soul ( and your loins ). It needs no bizarre accoutrements to stoke its fires. I suspect women for thousand of years have had pretty satisfying sex lives, passionate ones long before the advent of slutty Santa outfits.
It is not as though our generation invented sex as my late Grand-Mother always reminded me. Do you really think that generations of our ancestors just simply laid on their backs and thought of their crops or knitting patterns ? That passion was lacking because they had no access to latex masks and naughty nurse outfits ? Seriously ?
And variety comes in many different forms. Just because someone does not follow your path ( and the one so originally blazed by a large part of the female population, the originality is mind boggling and all pretty much determined by porn and cunning advertising ploys) does not mean they lack fire in the belly and their sex lives are somehow deficient.
I find it quite sad that some people are so bored with sex they just need to constantly be pushing the envelope.
Sex is never boring to me that I need to spice it up but thanks for the concern about the level of passion in my life. The Passion is just fine thank you.
Maybe more variety but I strongly object to "more passion". Passion has little to do with how you dress. I am extremely passionate,
I really fail to see how a slutty garment makes you any more passionate ?!?! Do you really think passion comes from a slutty Santa outfit. If so how terribly sad.
Passion is the fire in your soul ( and your loins ). It needs no bizarre accoutrements to stoke its fires. I suspect women for thousand of years have had pretty satisfying sex lives, passionate ones long before the advent of slutty Santa outfits.
It is not as though our generation invented sex as my late Grand-Mother always reminded me. Do you really think that generations of our ancestors just simply laid on their backs and thought of their crops or knitting patterns ? That passion was lacking because they had no access to latex masks and naughty nurse outfits ? Seriously ?
And variety comes in many different forms. Just because someone does not follow your path ( and the one so originally blazed by a large part of the female population, the originality is mind boggling and all pretty much determined by porn and cunning advertising ploys) does not mean they lack fire in the belly and their sex lives are somehow deficient.
I find it quite sad that some people are so bored with sex they just need to constantly be pushing the envelope.
Sex is never boring to me that I need to spice it up but thanks for the concern about the level of passion in my life. The Passion is just fine thank you.
The clothes do not make the woman. However they can give you that extra boost of confidence and sexiness that most women these days are lacking.
It is hard for women these days to feel good about themselves and anything that helps in that regard I support.
However if you don't like or desire lingerie that doesn't mean you aren't as passionate as the one who do.
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Passion has little to do with how you dress. I am extremely passionate, 
Do you really think passion comes from a slutty Santa outfit. If so how terribly sad. 
