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There is always some good advice here on C/D but for some reason even before we post our questions we know the anwser. Why are we so blind to what is right in front of us? Do we really need someone else to tell us that we're getting used, or being strung along or cheated on? Perhaps it's because we don't want to face whatever it is.
Many people post to obtain validation for a course of action they've already chosen. The last thing they want is an honest dissenting point of view, and will get defensive quickly if conflicting evidence is presented.
Another probability is that many times people post asking for advice, but what they really want is to 'talk it out' and commiserate/sympathize, etc. They aren't really in the market for nuts-and-bolts solutions, either.
I give horrible advice! Why would I want to take my own advice!
Hee hee!
It's hard to see the forest through the trees. I look back on my relationship with my ex-fiance and now I can see how wrong we were together. All my friends could see it at the time but I couldn't. It took time and distance. Sometimes you just can't see what is going on right in front of you until it is way behind you.
Because we're creatures of habit, and change frightens us so much that we will stay where we know a thing no longer works until the pain of staying put outweighs the pain of change.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Yes, we usually do know the answers but sometimes we need to talk ourselves through them. It's a sift through the sock drawer of life; you know it's there, you just have to dig a little to find it.
I think we tend to think our problems are a "special situation" unlike most others, and that the solution will be different because of that.
We lay out our issues to whoever is listening and say, "But we aren't cheating; we really are in love!" or "MY parents truly are crazy. Listen to what I have to put up with."
Not noticing, of course, that the core issues are mostly the same as everyone else who posts on the board.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Originally Posted by sydney1987
to each their own
Just because one can't grasp something or relate to it does not make it irrelevant.
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