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I'm in my early 20s, average looks, average height and weight.
I love going out at night with friends. We went out yesterday and a female friend of mine brought one of her friends with her. She wouldn't stop looking at me and paying me attention throughout dinner and later in the club. Whenever I went to the bar to pick up a drink, she would go too to have a chat.
This is very uncomfortable to me because I don't know what to say or to do. First of all, because I don't know if they're paying me special attention or just being nice. Secondly, I don't want to be rude.
What's a good way to ignore the (presumed) attention?
And I thought I was bad at this sort of thing. Dude, if she's giving you attention consistently she probably does like you. The question is do you like her? Are you ignoring it purely because it makes you uncomfortable or is it because of another reason?
If you are not interested in her you need to express that to her.
"Listen, it's nice to meet you and all but I really have no interest in anything more than a friendship."
The trouble with that is you can never know for sure if she's just being nice or very extroverted person. There's a huge risk of coming across as a laughing stock.
And I thought I was bad at this sort of thing. Dude, if she's giving you attention consistently she probably does like you. The question is do you like her? Are you ignoring it purely because it makes you uncomfortable or is it because of another reason?
Because it makes me very, very uncomfortable. No, I don't like her (if you mean that particular girl because this has happened in other occasions...I think).
Because it makes me very, very uncomfortable. No, I don't like her (if you mean that particular girl because this has happened in other occasions...I think).
Welcome to something called real life. You obviously aren't use to having women show interest in you. Otherwise you wouldn't feel uncomfortable. Guys that get regular attention from women don't worry like you do.
If you are not interested in the particular female....then just ignore her. It is not up to you to figure out why a particular female wants to talk to you. If she likes you so what. Go about your business. If it gets to the point of stalkerish behavior...then just let her know that you are not interested and would like some space.
The trouble with that is you can never know for sure if she's just being nice or very extroverted person. There's a huge risk of coming across as a laughing stock.
You talk to her politely, but reservedly, so as not to send the wrong signals. After the event you can ask your friend, the one who brought her along, what gives. If you're not interested in her, tell your friend so.
I'm sure there are many a male poster on this forum who would love to have your problem. Speaking of which, whatever happened to midget dude? (aka the short doctor)
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