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It's just not easy trying to determine which women actually like you or just like your money.
Anyone have any ideas on how I can casually find out if a person is genuine or a gold digger without raising any red flags?
It's very hard, I would think.
My initial thoughts would be to try to make them believe you're don't have the money they think you do. Everything is on loan payments you struggle to afford.... and see if that doesn't ward them off.
Next, find out more about them. My best male friend is a gold digger and if women knew he's had 80 internet dates in the last 2 years it should tell them that aside from quick sex, he's probably looking for sugar mama. So find out as much as you can about them and see if they seem to be shopping themselves around for that guy with money.
What is their financial appetite? Do they look for the most expensive clothes or shoes. Are they only interested in the top notch restaurants and resorts... It shouldn't take long to see if they pine for a champagne lifestyle. Are their friends seeking, or landed, guys with money?
Lastly, acts are hard to maintain. Be diligent and see if it's really you or you & $$.
And if all else fails, think about them lovely pre nups.
Most men concerned about "gold diggers" don't have any "gold" to speak of...
For once I agree with you. They act like they have tons and tons of money on here like Donald Trump, doubt that. All of the wealthy men I've ever known don't obsess over gold diggers like this.
You can just tell with being with them. Their words, actions, body language. Or they get defensive about it, like some women have already done in this thread.
Also they are typically high maintenance in many ways.
You can just tell with being with them. Their words, actions, body language. Or they get defensive about it, like some women have already done in this thread.
LMAO, I don't beleive XXBabeechick nor myself have ever depended on a man's money to make it in life. If so we'd be broke and homeless. So wrong, again. What we both said is the truth: IRL men with money do not carry on about gold diggers in the first place.
It's just not easy trying to determine which women actually like you or just like your money.
Anyone have any ideas on how I can casually find out if a person is genuine or a gold digger without raising any red flags?
Yes, tell them you have no money at all and a low paying job when you first meet them, or if they somehow know you have money, tell them you lost it all and are now penniless and see if they maintain their interest in you.
Yes, tell them you have no money at all and a low paying job when you first meet them, or if they somehow know you have money, tell them you lost it all and are now penniless and see if they maintain their interest in you.
Or you could just be honest with your employment and income, but firm when it comes to material things.
I don't think that gold diggers necessarily chase down rich guys exclusively, it's that when they seem to want material things more so than a genuine healthy relationship. I've never been rich in my life, but I once dated a girl who preferred I put $1000s on my credit card buying her jewelry or purses than making sound financial decisions. She respected what I could give her more than who I was. Part of it is my fault. I saw the signs with some smaller things but let it build up over time. It peaked with a horrific argument when I refused to buy her a new car.
Also as one person mentioned, guys can be just as bad. I don't think that it is the level of wealth that people seek that makes them a gold digger. It is that they place material stuff in higher priority than non-material.
Or you could just be honest with your employment and income, but firm when it comes to material things.
I don't think that gold diggers necessarily chase down rich guys exclusively, it's that when they seem to want material things more so than a genuine healthy relationship. I've never been rich in my life, but I once dated a girl who preferred I put $1000s on my credit card buying her jewelry or purses than making sound financial decisions. She respected what I could give her more than who I was. Part of it is my fault. I saw the signs with some smaller things but let it build up over time. It peaked with a horrific argument when I refused to buy her a new car.
Also as one person mentioned, guys can be just as bad. I don't think that it is the level of wealth that people seek that makes them a gold digger. It is that they place material stuff in higher priority than non-material.
Part of the problem with guys that attract gold diggers is that they seek out trophy women and try to impress them with dates to expensive restaurants and trendy resorts and everything else their money can buy -- so they shouldn't be too surprised when they find out the trophy woman was actually only impressed with their money.
You can easily lose the trophy kind of women by not going after the expensively dressed woman and instead find a more self-made woman and don't pay for expensive meals, maybe a date to McDonalds instead and see if she sticks around.
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