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How much of it is healthy and normal? Outside of a drunken one night stand, it's tough for me to separate sex and developing feelings, even if I know the person I just had sex with would be horrible for me to be in a relationship with. If she's around my age and is decent looking (I wouldn't be sleeping with them otherwise), I start thinking about what the rest of my life would be like with that person. This totally doesn't apply to cougars, just girls my own age. Does it get easier with more casual sex? Do I really want to become the guy that totally separates developing feelings and having sex? I had a fwb once that I knew I didn't want anything to do with, but when I learned I wasn't the only guy in the picture, it drove me a little crazy/hurt.
You can do it both ways: deep feelings for someone compatible you want as part of your life, and simple NSA (mutual) enjoyment with someone else. It's not either/or, and it can also be a range of feelings or lack thereof.
Jealousy is usually counterproductive, and I think most often hurts and hinders those who feel it, rather than those on whom you project it.
If it was a straight up FWB, why would you care if she was sleeping with someone else? As long as you take the proper steps to protect yourself, it should be none of your business. Im not jealous at all, becasue there is no point of letting negative emotions enter oyur life if there is no reason for it. If you are able to give your woman the best sex of her life, or at least a ton of variety and satisfaction, there is usualy no reason at all to be jealous, because there would be practicaly no reason for her to want to be with anyone else. And if she does, its her choice - you pack her **** up and leave it outside the front door. No matter how jealoous we get or how controlling we may want to be, there is practicaly no way of stopping someone from cheating, if thats what they choose to do.
How much of it is healthy and normal? Outside of a drunken one night stand, it's tough for me to separate sex and developing feelings, even if I know the person I just had sex with would be horrible for me to be in a relationship with. If she's around my age and is decent looking (I wouldn't be sleeping with them otherwise), I start thinking about what the rest of my life would be like with that person. This totally doesn't apply to cougars, just girls my own age. Does it get easier with more casual sex? Do I really want to become the guy that totally separates developing feelings and having sex? I had a fwb once that I knew I didn't want anything to do with, but when I learned I wasn't the only guy in the picture, it drove me a little crazy/hurt.
Sounds like you have to start spinning plate, my man. If you're hooking up with 5 different girls, you won't care what any of them are doing when they're not with you.
I totally get that and I am plenty confident, but it still sucks (mostly because I tend to develop feelings). I just need to able to do a better job at not elevating every girl I sleep with into potential gf territory. I guess my personal views on sex make this more difficult than it should be...
Logically, I know jealousy is a dead end street and I'd never act on any of those feelings, but it still eats me up inside. Even getting a new piece of tail doesn't always fix it.
I say it is normal for you to develop feelings, since biology has a say in it. It isn't all conscious, but hormonal.
However, if your really just out for some fun, just don't start thinking about the future. Just think about the present, and have your fun. The more you dwell on a potential future, the more you will fixate and elevate it's importance.
It's human nature. Anyone who says anything different is lying to themselves. However, you can choose how to react to it (or not).
Jealousy? I have none. seriously, I am married and find it really hard to be jealous. I must have an insane defense mechanism in my brain that triggers different feelings when I should be feeling worried.
Jealousy? I have none. seriously, I am married and find it really hard to be jealous. I must have an insane defense mechanism in my brain that triggers different feelings when I should be feeling worried.
Notice you said "hard" and not impossible.
Jealousy is normal, but I think people consider it to be some horrible, life-altering affliction. For most people, it is not. In fact, it can be the little nudge you need to be a little better, do a little more, make some changes.
I am married and I am not a jealous wife because I trust my husband and I do not have the need to know where he is at all times which is a good thing because he is away from home working more than he is home.
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