Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
e.g. a guy reads a news article about someone managing to pay off his downpayment by living very frugally, he proclaims that he is NOT jealous of him...but then goes on to make baseless accusations that he could be cheating on his taxes or what have you. That screams jealousy to me.
e.g. friend A: Before going out, he would assure us many times that he doesn't give a F what people think. "Yeah I'm gonna wear this ragged shirt because I don't give a F what people think!"
"If they don't like it, F them!!"
Then, some incident happened where he gets into a small argument with stranger, the stranger goes away. He will talk about it 1 hr after the incident. "yeah that guy was an idiot!!" "he shouldn't have done that!" blahblah
e.g. woman I know always tells me how she doesn't care what people think of her. Some incident happens at a restaurant regarding service, and she will moan about it many days later. "That waitress was such a ***!!! I tipped her $0 for that!"
Sometimes, she will bring it up at another restaurant, "im glad this waitress wasn't like that other one!"
For me, I am trying to put myself in their shoes and if those incidents happened to me, I would probably get angry for a minute and then forget about it.
The girl in your exsmaple paying for a service.
That has nothing to do with caring what people think OF YOU, that's caring you are getting proper treatment and service.
It's called the "hospitality" industry for a reason.
Last edited by rego00123; 06-12-2014 at 05:32 PM..
Mmm....some people say they feel the opposite of what they really feel because they don't want to seem insecure, don't want to worry others, or in this case seem weak.
Over the course of two or three years, I've attempted to get to know maybe two or three guys, we talk on the phone and in person (I'm trying to determine if I should give dating them a chance) So inevitably the topic of deal breakers comes up and I assert that I can't stand arguing. Across the board each guy says, Oh, I can't stand arguing either. Then I tell them, it's more serious than that...I believe when a couple begins a descent into compulsive and petty arguing, they need to end their relationship as soon as possible. THAT's how much I cannot stand being with a man that likes arguing!" They seem to get what I'm saying...but no more than a week or two after this discussion, I see a tendency in the person to want to start arguments and they seem driven to win them. This has happened with more than one guy. This is so discouraging. They say they understand and agree...we're on the same page here, "arguing is beyond useless" and then they reveal to me the very character flaw that can send me on a rant. I don't understand. Where are the guys with laidback easygoing personalities, with no control or dominance issues?
As for your question, sounds like people who indulges in hypocrisy, don't practice what they preach or believe in. You see and here that all the time and its nothing unusual.
As for your question, sounds like people who indulges in hypocrisy, don't practice what they preach or believe in. You see and here that all the time and its nothing unusual.
e.g. a guy reads a news article about someone managing to pay off his downpayment by living very frugally, he proclaims that he is NOT jealous of him...but then goes on to make baseless accusations that he could be cheating on his taxes or what have you. That screams jealousy to me.
e.g. friend A: Before going out, he would assure us many times that he doesn't give a F what people think. "Yeah I'm gonna wear this ragged shirt because I don't give a F what people think!"
"If they don't like it, F them!!"
Then, some incident happened where he gets into a small argument with stranger, the stranger goes away. He will talk about it 1 hr after the incident. "yeah that guy was an idiot!!" "he shouldn't have done that!" blahblah
e.g. woman I know always tells me how she doesn't care what people think of her. Some incident happens at a restaurant regarding service, and she will moan about it many days later. "That waitress was such a ***!!! I tipped her $0 for that!"
Sometimes, she will bring it up at another restaurant, "im glad this waitress wasn't like that other one!"
For me, I am trying to put myself in their shoes and if those incidents happened to me, I would probably get angry for a minute and then forget about it.
People have their moments. Depends on their mood/motivation/environment?
People like the Dalai Lama say they are happy, and I truly believe it. Although, their level of happiness requires meditation at a lengthy time away from corporate culture.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
