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The guy misled you (especially the second time) and he is a jerk for doing so. Playing with your feelings is not cool. Many posters say to let it go and I would also advise that. Do not recognize his upcoming birthday. That will be a big mistake on your part.
When I went in front of the judge in my divorce proceeding he asked me if I had anything to say to her. Believe me, I really wanted to but I figured what was the point.
I suggest you do the same and not tell him off, just let it go. Anger is just wasted energy. His loss, move on...
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Last edited by John13; 09-10-2012 at 09:33 AM..
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capitol;26026308 what is wrong with you!!!! He dated her for quite awhile and told her he was in love with her got what he wanted from her. Then he dumped her.
When they went to college he was alone and lonely and then called her because he had no one else. As soon as he found new friends he dumped her again. He's a complete a***.
Where did it say he got what he "wanted." I'm assuming you are implying sex but nowhere did she say or imply that he wanted her for sex.
Yeah he was lonely so he tried to reconnect with her because he had some feelings for her but after 2 weeks he realized his feelings weren't on a sexual level for her so he did the honorable thing and dumped her before she got too attached. There is nothing wrong with him having confusing feelings and trying to reconcile again to see if it would work.
Sorry you're going through this OP. You cared about him and you gave him another chance, so at least you can walk away not wondering what if. It's always been a challenge for me to walk away from any relationship no matter how long it lasted without saying my piece. But you have to ask yourself what will that really accomplish? Telling him what a jerk you think he is won't change him, it won't fix the relationship, it won't give you back the time you were with him. And honestly it just gives him MORE of the upper hand because it lets him further know how upset you are that things didn't work out. I know it sounds cheesy, but do you have a journal? When I got my divorce a few years ago I used to write letters to him in a journal. It sounds lame perhaps, and of course he never saw what I wrote, but it helped me get out my feelings. Hang in there! College is a blast and you will make so many new friends, and date, and somewhere along the way you'll meet the guy who will never want to let you go!
I dont really see what the guy did wrong either. He broke up with OP, ended up going to the same school, missed the sex part and asked her to be FWB. At least the guy is upfront about it, but i keep forgetting that being a liar is substantialy more rewarded by women than being honest. Besides, why does anyone need to have the upperhand when breaking up? Who cares? its over, he wants fwb and you dont, tell him that and move on. Human nature never ceases to amaze me.
I think he lied to her for two years and was just in it for the physical rewards. The guy is a total rectum and was extremely cruel trying to come back for more. I've seen a lot of emotional serial killers in my day. There's way too much of it's all about me mentality. Run girlfriend run. You can do better.
So for about 2 weeks, he was the sweetest guy. He kept telling me how
wonderful I was, how much he missed me. And I actually started to feel something for him again. But then, he tells me he's not into me. At all. These were his words. "I don't love you. I doubt I ever will. I feel nothing for you, just slight attraction. I love you as much as I love my friends. And I don't love my friends. I respect you. I just don't want to fool you into thinking something more will happen."*
So there I was, feeling like the biggest dumb ass in the world. He gave me all that good stuff, "let's still be friends, we can still date, but not really date."*
So I walked away. I started to cry, and made up some excuse about needing to be somewhere so he wouldn't see my tears... Again. His last words to me were, " I'm here if you need me. Let me know when you'll need to see me again."
Anyway, I just want some opinions on this. Maybe discussions amongst yourselves. You can use my story for your general amusement.*
capitol: I'm assuming you are implying sex but nowhere did she say or imply that he wanted her for sex. lovesMountains: "Did you read the OP? She did not report him asking her for a "FWB" arrangement
Im sorry, who doesn't see these statements, coming from a guy to a girl as, a FWB request?
capitol: I'm assuming you are implying sex but nowhere did she say or imply that he wanted her for sex. lovesMountains: "Did you read the OP? She did not report him asking her for a "FWB" arrangement
Im sorry, who doesn't see these statements, coming from a guy to a girl as, a FWB request?
Or maybe he doesn't want to have sex with her because he doesn't want to get attached. She is a HS senior so we can't even be sure they ever had sex or had sex during the 2 weeks. She needs to clarify the situation.
Or maybe he doesn't want to have sex with her because he doesn't want to get attached. She is a HS senior so we can't even be sure they ever had sex or had sex during the 2 weeks. She needs to clarify the situation.
Again, did you even read the OP?
She and he are now college freshman at the same college.
I don't think it really matters what the intentions of the OP's ex are, he's a jackass all the same !!
OP, if you want to, go for it, but it's only a short term way to feel better.
Others have already said it, just turn your back, block him out, move on.
That will bring you much more satisfaction in the long term.
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I think he lied to her for two years and was just in it for the physical rewards. The guy is a total rectum and was extremely cruel trying to come back for more. I've seen a lot of emotional serial killers in my day. There's way too much of it's all about me mentality. Run girlfriend run. You can do better.
