At what age should a man know if he wants marriage/kids? (women, love)
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I am not asking at what age should a man start getting married and having kids, I am asking at what age he should at least know if this is in his game plan or not?
Been arguing with my bf over this since he will be turning 30 this year. I think he should know whether or not those are things he wants by now. He tells me he should know for sure in a couple of years. I don't think that's fair to keep me around considering those things are deal breakers for me if he decides he wants them-I can't give them to him. He's known this from the start (over 3 years ago).
I don't want a family or marriage, those are deal breakers for me. I don't want him to change his mind and want those things when I cant give them to him.
Opinions?
Last edited by findly185; 03-26-2013 at 10:00 AM..
I am not asking at what age should a man start getting married and having kids, I am asking at what age he should at least know if this is in his game plan or not?
Been arguing with my bf over this since he will be turning 30 this year. I think he should know whether or not those are things he wants by now. He tells me he should know for sure in a couple of years. I don't think that's fair to keep me around considering those things are deal breakers for me if he decides he wants them-I can't give them to him. He's known this from the start (over 3 years ago).
Opinions?
You're funny! You wanted to convince yourself that he was on the same page as you and he's been stringing you along for as long as he can to keep you around.
I am not asking at what age should a man start getting married and having kids, I am asking at what age he should at least know if this is in his game plan or not?
Been arguing with my bf over this since he will be turning 30 this year. I think he should know whether or not those are things he wants by now. He tells me he should know for sure in a couple of years. I don't think that's fair to keep me around considering those things are deal breakers for me if he decides he wants them-I can't give them to him. He's known this from the start (over 3 years ago).
Opinions?
It's fair because you let it be fair.
Men are individuals. We all have different thoughts about things. There is no age at which we should all know whether or not we want kids.
Though, given the evidence, I'd say that having kids is NOT a priority for this guy.
By 30 I would think he should have an idea if a family is in his life direction/goals or not (I would think most people would know if that was a life goal of their's well before 30, whether or not they were ready to achieve that goal then and their).
I almost suspect at 30, he really knows and doesn't want to commit the real answer to you. So he stays on the fence to string you along.
That's a hard question. I'd think he should know around 30 but people do work on different timeframes.
But I agree, you shouldn't have to wait around for the next few years waiting on his response. Take it from me who waited til nearly 34 to start trying (and have several 35+ friends trying). It gets harder and more complicated with age, plus the risks associated increase.
If I could do it again, I wish I would have started a few years earlier.
I am not asking at what age should a man start getting married and having kids, I am asking at what age he should at least know if this is in his game plan or not?
Been arguing with my bf over this since he will be turning 30 this year. I think he should know whether or not those are things he wants by now. He tells me he should know for sure in a couple of years. I don't think that's fair to keep me around considering those things are deal breakers for me if he decides he wants them-I can't give them to him. He's known this from the start (over 3 years ago).
Opinions?
Actually, I don't think some of them "know" until they hear one is on the way
Actually, I don't think some of them "know" until they hear one is on the way
This could be, but as a guy I do not think so. Of course, my evidence is purely anecdotal. However, I think guys know whether they would really want children very early on.
One's that want children may not want them right now, so they may outwardly express being undecided on it.
Those that do not want children, if they love the woman they are with, and think or know that she does want children, will often be non-commital on it to try and kick the confrontation over it down the road.
Then there is the wild card of someone changing their mind, but even so at any given point of time I would expect most adult men to have an opinion on this, fundamentally, one way or another.
This could be, but as a guy I do not think so. Of course, my evidence is purely anecdotal. However, I think guys know whether they would really want children very early on.
One's that want children may not want them right now, so they may outwardly express being undecided on it.
Those that do not want children, if they love the woman they are with, and think or know that she does want children, will often be non-commital on it to try and kick the confrontation over it down the road.
All I want is 100% confirmation that he doesn't want marriage or kids. Idk why all of a sudden he's flip flopping.
I always dated women who were able to have kids, and were maybe looking to have kids in the future.
I always avoided women who couldn't have kids.
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