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If one spouse only earns 20-40k less, but has a great career, it would be nonsensical to give that up to do chores. There are many reasons to remain employed with current income only being one of them.
I didn't say "give up" necessarily. I said either do the house chores (and give up if time is necessary or even pay out that income for maid services).
What makes you think you're smarter than me? Some Harvard books on your shelf that you never opened lol
So how do you work out if one partner puts max in a 401(k) plan? What if both partners do, but only one gets a company match? What if one job offers a pension?
Honestly, this record keeping is beyond me in concept.
Too bad that women who work full-time, cook, and do all the housework are often too tired for sex, not to mention resentful of ol' Lazy Larry sitting there playing video games because he thinks his work is done the minute his commute is over, which is how marriages become sexless in the first place.
So much for your theory.
Too tired for sex? Let's put this guy in the bedroom with your wife and see how tired she is....
Good lord, all she has to do is LAY THERE. How much effort does that take?
If someone earns 200k a year, and their spouse earns 20k a year then the household enjoys a 200k lifestyle. Including the spouse that earns 20k. So it's a bit ridiculous for that 20k earning spouse to complain about cleaning or doing the dishes. If they want they can quit that 20k job, the household will barely feel it, and go to upkeeping the house. If the spouse so feels that the job is their dream job and they will be miserable without it. Fine, out of that 20k goes maid expenses. That's fair.
Anything else isn't fair. I'm not saying life is always fair but I'll be damned to hear that a 50/50 split is a fair split. It's not in many cases. In others it is.
Your assumption is that the family enjoys a 200K lifestyle, meanwhile they could be living on 40K with no issue at all, maybe using some of the extra for the kids college funds and expenses and banking the rest of the money for retirement.
But, I do realize that a lot of people don't live like that...the more they make the bigger and better everything they have has to be.
Simply because that other spouse enjoys the fruits of YOUR labor. He/she lives in a better house/eats better food/etc. He/she can at least not demand you do something like wash the dishes YOU paid for, and cook the food that YOUR money bought.
Again, this speaks to your complete lack of experience in relationships that have positive collaboration. A spouse, for example, that chooses to work nights rather than days so a child doesn't have to go into day care, or for a job with better insurance, whatever, and subsequently makes a professional sacrifice for the family is providing in ways that exceeds monetary contribution. A spouse that earns less, but holds a career that benefits the human community is a boon for their own family and society. They are of equal value.
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All her posts tell me is that she's bitter. Which is weird because she's always trying to say she's happy
But I never read anything that smart by her. She definitely tries though.
Because I don't take shyte from losers? Toughen up little man. And as if you would be able to discern what is and is not intelligent. I doubt that would be a useful skill in jail.
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Oh yeah, she's horribly unhappy. Aren't you smart to have seen through the charade?
Lol I still suspect troll. Who comes to a forum, talks this crap, while divulging STDs, his kids, etc?
Why does your value (or lack of) in your job carry over to your value in your home and to your spouse?
You can have results in your professional life regardless of your paycheck.
Definitely. What you do at work to earn a paycheck doesn't translate into your contributions and responsibilities in your home. It's TIME, not income, that matters. Two people work full-time, responsibilities need to balance. One person works part-time, then they have extra time to contribute at home. Oner person doesn't work at all, then the home becomes their primary work domain from 9-5.
My ex-husband earned 2-2.5 times what I did, but he certainly didn't work 2.5 times harder for it than I did. Gotta love the inequity in payment for unionized blue-collar unskilled labour versus college-educated positions. He thought I should get a second job to boost my financial contribution to the household. I could have worked 24 hours a day and still not made what he did.
Again, this speaks to your complete lack of experience in relationships that have positive collaboration. A spouse, for example, that chooses to work nights rather than days so a child doesn't have to go into day care, or for a job with better insurance, whatever, and subsequently makes a professional sacrifice for the family is providing in ways that exceeds monetary contribution. A spouse that earns less, but holds a career that benefits the human community is a boon for their own family and society. They are of equal value.
lol I can give a **** less about the human community. What I care is about my family. Everything else is just say so. It's nothing more than wishful thinking. If your spouse agrees with it, I guess everyone is happy
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