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My boyfriend is an American, and we met here in China when he got sent over here by his company for work. We have been dating for several months now and everything is going great. I have had more pleasant times with him than I ever did with anybody in the past, and we feel very close to each other.
However, he was just told by his company that he will need to go back to the U.S. by December. Given the nature of my job and everything else going on in my life, I know I won't be able to go to the U.S. to be with him for the next two years. Because both of us are extremely busy with work, if we decide to keep dating each other, we will probably not be able to visit each other for more than twice a year.
We have talked about possibilities of a future for us, but it just seems awfully difficult to have a long distance relationship where the two of us literally won't see each other at all for 2 years.
I care so much about our relationship that I don't want to end it, but I'm not sure if, from a rational point of view, such a long distance relationship will even work?
IMO, I would say that it's probably not feasible. You've been dating for several months, and that is the period of time when things are supposed to be really good, it's still the new "honeymoon" phase of dating. To lose that regular contact, in a time when you're really getting to know each other, is difficult, because you may not have seen each other at your worst, become completely comfortable and relaxed with each other, and all of those opportunities are going to be taken away.
Also, you're likely going to be lonely having a BF "in name only". While you may get to know each other better via email, IM, the lack of physical closeness is the toughest part. No intimacy, no companionship. You won't be together for daily life, going to the movies, out with other couples. You'll essentially be single yet not available, held back because you have a BF on the other side of the world.
I don't know about you, but I need more out of a relationship than that.
We have talked about possibilities of a future for us, but it just seems awfully difficult to have a long distance relationship where the two of us literally won't see each other at all for 2 years.
I care so much about our relationship that I don't want to end it, but I'm not sure if, from a rational point of view, such a long distance relationship will even work?
I got out of a LDR a while back & I swore I would never do it again..... But I did & the only reason I did was I've moved & I am less then a days drive from this AWSOME women! I think in a case like yours it's much harder not seeing other for 2 years can only end badly, I'm sorry but sooner or later I believe that one of you if not both will want someone closer to you. Your right its not very rational in the long run.
What a crappy situation. I think if you had been dating for years...maybe. But it's only been a few months and 2 years is a long time to wait for someone you've only known for a few months. Maybe you could stay in touch as friends and maybe somewhere down the road things will be different.
2 years apart is a very long time. My husband and I had a long distance relationship but we both said we wouldn't go longer than 3 months without each other. Luckily immigration on both sides made this possible for us. I think if we had more than 6 months apart it just wouldn't have worked out.
Two years is a long time to be apart, especially when you've only known each other for a few months. Where do you call home, if I may ask? I'm guessing you're also a lao wai?
I'd vote with babeechick. Considering you have so little history behind you both, its highly unlikely that a long distance relationship would last.
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