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This seems to be something that attracts women to men, but not so much the other way around. You seldom hear a man talk about being attracted to a lady because she was strong, assertive, always spoke her mind.etc. Such women are sometimes called bossy or bitchy.
i agree. it's generally her girlfriends, or perhaps gay male friend, who sits by and says that "Men love strong, assertive women!" There's a lot of peer pressure out there for men to say that they love "strong, assertive women", because if you don't, the feminists will come and throw rocks at you.
"Strong, assertive women" are not exactly a scarce commodity out there, nor are they necessarily attractive. Honey Boo Boo's mom is a "strong, assertive woman" in her own right, for example.
i agree. it's generally her girlfriends, or perhaps gay male friend, who sits by and says that "Men love strong, assertive women!" There's a lot of peer pressure out there for men to say that they love "strong, assertive women", because if you don't, the feminists will come and throw rocks at you.
"Strong, assertive women" are not exactly a scarce commodity out there, nor are they necessarily attractive. Honey Boo Boo's mom is a "strong, assertive woman" in her own right, for example.
I think some men find an aggressive woman to be very attractive, but probably a lot of men would prefer someone more laid back and easy to get along with, especially over the long run. Assertiveness and aggressiveness are traditionally more masculine traits, so it makes sense that those things would not be at the top of the list for what men find attractive in women. Not to say a woman has to be a pushover, but people need to work together and try to get along. If one person has the attitude of not being willing to compromise at all, it's going to be a tough road with lots of fights.
I find men who are confident in their own masculinity and not terribly defensive of it, tend to like women who are like this - guys who feel they have nothing to prove. My one ex knew his way around a garage, junkyard, construction site, factory floor, bar brawl, etc. But he totally recognized that I was very good at negotiation, drawing boundaries and backing him up when he was in unfamiliar territory, and he appreciated that. We were a rather formidable team.
I have also found that men who are very aggressive and pushy because they are confident (or simply arrogant) will often seek out women who have the same traits, as well though. This is slightly different.
I find men who are confident in their own masculinity and not terribly defensive of it, tend to like women who are like this - guys who feel they have nothing to prove. My one ex knew his way around a garage, junkyard, construction site, factory floor, bar brawl, etc. But he totally recognized that I was very good at negotiation, drawing boundaries and backing him up when he was in unfamiliar territory, and he appreciated that. We were a rather formidable team.
I have also found that men who are very aggressive and pushy because they are confident (or simply arrogant) will often seek out women who have the same traits, as well though. This is slightly different.
Hmm, that is an interesting observation. I never really took note of that, but it does make sense.
I guess there is a balance to it. I would not be attracted to a controlling or bossy woman. However, I would be attracted to a confident woman who is willing to take initiative when needed too, as opposed to being idle or playing the victim.
I thought most of the men on here wanted a woman who approaches them, plans the dates, pays for the dates, initiates physical contact, etc. Wouldn't that be an aggressive, confident woman? I thought some of the men on here were sick of non-aggressive women?
I thought most of the men on here wanted a woman who approaches them, plans the dates, pays for the dates, initiates physical contact, etc. Wouldn't that be an aggressive, confident woman? I thought some of the men on here were sick of non-aggressive women?
So confused!
I think most just want some meet them in the middle and go the extra mile at times the same way they would.
Some of the guys on here want the woman to do all that, because of some social anxiety or phobia that is preventing them from having successful initial contacts and dates. So if the woman does it for them, it removes their burden.
Ultimately there are many shades of grey in these generalizations... I still say there is a happy balance somewhere between super-aggressive, and super-passive.
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I never really took note of that, but it does make sense.
