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Ok, I know it's just sex. Perhaps having a low libido is actually a blessing, because it enables me to actually NOT see women as sex objects. Anyway..
Yesterday, I offered to give one of my co-workers a lift to the gym, as she works out at a gym close to where I live. She's a nice girl, but I don't like her in "that" way.
She's 22, I am 37. If I were 5 years older, I would basically be old enough to be her dad.
We talked (she talked) a lot on the car journey. She was very ditzy and immature (as a 22 year old would be to a 37 year old). She's very pretty, but I felt no attraction at all. I felt like I were in the car with a niece, or something along those lines. She seemed like a kid, to be honest. Her and I would have absolutely nothing in common and she seemed very naive, in terms of knowing that you cannot be "nice" in a flirtatious way to men, because they will think you're interested in them. She was talking about 'Legally Blonde', hot guys, I could never date X guy, etc, etc. I felt like a relic.
I suppose that many men my age would be turned on by a 22 year old girl wearing short gym shorts, giggling and being 'girly'. Personally, I wasn't a bit turned on. If anything, I felt like an elder, so much so that I even told her to be careful.
The point is, I don't get why men my age and older go for much younger women. We have nothing in common and it's just weird. Being in a relationship with someone is more than just sex, you actually have to have stuff in common with that person too. I have NOTHING in common with a 22 year old girl. To be honest, most people under 25 seem like kids to me now, so it would just seem morally wrong to pursue women under that age.
Anyone else feel the same way? If I were attractive and up for dating, I would actually not go out with anyone under 28. It would just be too weird in terms of maturity.
I'm not as old as you, but for me that answer is simple.
My generation(+/-5 years) are more likely to have tattoos than women older and younger, therefore I've pursued older and younger women and haven't really payed much attention at all to women of my generation.
I see cute girls in their early 20s, but if they could be my daughter, that makes it kind of pervy, at least for me. Plus, you really DON'T have much in common with them.
Another reason why old(er) men do it is that it's a manifestation of power. Sure, everything is firmer and tighter, but they are also viewed as a commodity, almost a show of what they can obtain with their power and money.
I don't have much respect for either party, including the girl who has a "sugar daddy." Unless they've aged really well, you know they're thinking of someone else when that dude is on top of them.
Ok, I know it's just sex. Perhaps having a low libido is actually a blessing, because it enables me to actually NOT see women as sex objects. Anyway..
Yesterday, I offered to give one of my co-workers a lift to the gym, as she works out at a gym close to where I live. She's a nice girl, but I don't like her in "that" way.
She's 22, I am 37. If I were 5 years older, I would basically be old enough to be her dad.
We talked (she talked) a lot on the car journey. She was very ditzy and immature (as a 22 year old would be to a 37 year old). She's very pretty, but I felt no attraction at all. I felt like I were in the car with a niece, or something along those lines. She seemed like a kid, to be honest. Her and I would have absolutely nothing in common and she seemed very naive, in terms of knowing that you cannot be "nice" in a flirtatious way to men, because they will think you're interested in them. She was talking about 'Legally Blonde', hot guys, I could never date X guy, etc, etc. I felt like a relic.
I suppose that many men my age would be turned on by a 22 year old girl wearing short gym shorts, giggling and being 'girly'. Personally, I wasn't a bit turned on. If anything, I felt like an elder, so much so that I even told her to be careful.
The point is, I don't get why men my age and older go for much younger women. We have nothing in common and it's just weird. Being in a relationship with someone is more than just sex, you actually have to have stuff in common with that person too. I have NOTHING in common with a 22 year old girl. To be honest, most people under 25 seem like kids to me now, so it would just seem morally wrong to pursue women under that age.
Anyone else feel the same way? If I were attractive and up for dating, I would actually not go out with anyone under 28. It would just be too weird in terms of maturity.
In my experience, men my age (I am 43) who consistently date much younger women often have serious power and control issues. Sure, they like sex with nubile young bodies. But often, they also want partners they perceive as naive and inexperienced, who they can more easily manipulate and control. It may not be true in all cases, but it is pretty common.
I'm not as old as you, but for me that answer is simple.
My generation(+/-5 years) are more likely to have tattoos than women older and younger, therefore I've pursued older and younger women and haven't really payed much attention at all to women of my generation.
I find that odd, because out of all of my girlfriends (ages 24-35ish) I'm one of only 3 that have any tattoos. I'm the odd one out and the VAST majority of the people I know don't have any at all.
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