Are bisexual men doomed to live a lie? Or do you think attitudes will become more accepting? Should bi people marry? (dating, wife)

[OngletNYC]

I don't care for them because in referring to themselves as "bisexual" men don't mean they have the ability to fall in love with both sexes, instead they mean they have the ability to get their rocks off with both sexes. There is something unseemly about naming yourself after your method of obtaining an orgasm. A bisexual man who actually means he experiences love and relationships with both sexes would not squick me out, but those are rare as unicorns.

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by OngletNYC

I don't care for them because in referring to themselves as "bisexual" men don't mean they have the ability to fall in love with both sexes, instead they mean they have the ability to get their rocks off with both sexes. There is something unseemly about naming yourself after your method of obtaining an orgasm. A bisexual man who actually means he experiences love and relationships with both sexes would not squick me out, but those are rare as unicorns.

Then why are you so against men who are physically attracted to both men but might only want to settle down with a woman?

[OngletNYC]

Originally Posted by Trimac20

Then why are you so against men who are physically attracted to both men but might only want to settle down with a woman?

I am not "so against" them; they can live their lives as they see fit and I support their rights as such. I just don't care to be the woman a bisexual man settles down with.

[Trimac20]

So do you see female bis as more noble because as women, relationships are more about the emotional aspect of things and they can experience love with both genders? Are you suggesting most bi men just do it for the sexual aspect of it? How do you know that very few of them have genuine relationships with both?

[OngletNYC]

Originally Posted by Trimac20

So do you see female bis as more noble because as women, relationships are more about the emotional aspect of things and they can experience love with both genders? Are you suggesting most bi men just do it for the sexual aspect of it? How do you know that very few of them have genuine relationships with both?

I said nothing about female bisexuals being noble. I am happy to discuss the issue but not when you put words in my mouth, nor when you demand I answer leading questions (i.e. "so you are suggesting...") If you started this thread because you want people to discuss this openly in order to get different view points, you are going about this the wrong way. If you started this thread in order to chastise people who don't think the same as you, then carry on in this manner. I find the topic interesting, but not so interesting that I will put up with your shenanigans.

[Elained10]

I dont know what the big deal is, who cares who we're attracted to? its not a big deal there are more to worry us than who finds who attractive......personally i would date a bi guy i dont see the issue at all, variety is the spice of life

[Checkered24]

Maybe women do not trust that bi men are truly bi, worried they are really just gay but looking for women to be PC because it is a more accepted social norm?

It has to be more than a fear he will ultimately be attracted to someone else, since all women will face the question of whether the guy they are with is going to remain faithful, or be attracted to someone else and leave them, in their evaluation of a guy.

So maybe it is a double risk, whether they will be attracted to someone else, and whether they will find a greater tendancy to prefer the other gender.

Or not?

[CountryFisher]

Bi people should date and marry someone of their opposite gender and live their life as a normal person. Homosexuality is an abomination.

[robertpolyglot]

Originally Posted by MOKAN

I think it's funny how even self-proclaimed "liberal" women say they will not date bisexual men or men who have bisexually experimented. I think it's funny these women will pay a whole lot of lip service in the defense of gays, but when it becomes personal so that they actually *think* about it, homosexual behavior disgusts them.

The liberal women you speak about are either PC, or pretend to be because it's cool, or are faghags (sorry). Yeah, I think that the double standard exists because, even though not really accepted, lesbianism is viewed as an "extension of femininity" (think of those Renaissance paintings with naked ladies with rounded abdomens and fleshy arms hanging all over each other), whereas homosexuality is anything but an extension of masculinity. Then, there is the fear of STIs - I'm sure that women could transmit these to each other, since they use their mouths, fingers, and contraptions.

[trishguard]

Some women will not date bisexual men for the same reason that some women will not date other women and some men will not date other men. They don't want to. It doesn't mean they are against bisexuals, lesbians, or homosexuals having equal rights.