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When I first became a member of C-D, I received polite and friendly conversational messages and comments from the male posters here as well as from the female posters. About a month ago, I started receiving DMs and comments from male posters who were being very overly flirtatious and whose messages eventually became sexual in nature - even though they're all aware that I'm in a happy relationship and love my SO very much.
As soon as this happened, I messaged them back and in a polite way I told them that the content of their messages were extremely inappropriate, that I didn't "enjoy" them nor was I having any "fun" with what they were doing and that they made me feel very uncomfortable. I asked them to not message me again unless they could keep the content of their messages respectful and courteous. Most of them apologized and honored my request, but a few of them either didn't respond to my request or they completely ignored it.
I've yet to use the "block"/"ignore" feature on this site and I really don't want to. Besides wanting to know if the other female members here had to deal with these unwanted and disrespectful messages and how they dealt with it - I'd also like to hear from other respectful and decent male posters here as to why they think some men believe that women like receiving these type of inappropriate, perverted messages? What are some of these guys trying to accomplish? Why is it that even when a woman politely alerts them to the fact that their sexual innuendos and advances via DMs and comments are *NOT* wanted and for them to *please STOP*, they still continue to do it?
I've never encountered this before and although I have since corrected the problem, it made me feel very uncomfortable and I'm now very wary of accepting any friend requests in the future. I'd like to know what the women and men here think about this type of situation and why some men seem to take pleasure in making women feel extremely uncomfortable with sexual innuendos and disrespectful comments.
Yes, it's happened to me, but when I tell people to **** off it usually works. :-) You are either not being clear enough or your womanly mojo is exceptionally strong.
Last edited by JustJulia; 03-07-2013 at 07:33 PM..
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Its just people doing it for attention. Its easier for them to do this from behind a screen possibly thousands of miles away, And unfortunately some get more motivated when rejected. We have some great people on here but as it is an open forum bad apples attatch to the tree so to speak. If you have to block them, so be it.
That is why, even if I were single, I would not engage in sexual or flirtatious banter out on the boards. Not that you do, but just saying. It would only encourage them or give them ideas.
Some people just have to push the envelope though. Once, I ignore. Twice, I tell them to cut it out. Third time, they're gone.
You get the respect you command. In my opinion, I'd rather be viewed as a bit of a ball-breaker than deal with that tripe. I don't even have a photo of myself here. For all they know, I could look like Jabba the Hut.
Not really. When/if they did, I just re-directed them like I do my kids.
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