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A couple weeks ago my boyfriend dumped me for another woman. I took the break-up hard I'm still a little bitter but I'm managing. I still care for this man.
I talked to my aunt who knows him and she says he's going through disrepair because he just paid all of his new girlfriend bills that has been backed up for a few months, and he bought his girlfriends kids New clothes. After all that his new girlfriend told him that she needs a break and he should leave her alone for a while.
I want to call him and let him know that I'm here for him . But my girlfriends insist that I stay away before my obsession with him starts again. ( I'm not obsessed they go way overboard sometime)
If you're still on friendly terms and can handle the nature of his situation, I'd say contact him. If you think you may fall for him all over again, tread very carefully as you still have your own feelings to consider.
Do not do not do not call him! He is a big boy, he made big boy decisions. If he wants to open up lines of communication by apologizing, great--but do not feel guilty/bad because he made poor choices.
If you're still on friendly terms and can handle the nature of his situation, I'd say contact him. If you think you may fall for him all over again, tread very carefully as you still have your own feelings to consider.
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That's the thing. I'm not sure what terms we are post break-up. He hasn't contact me since the "we are over" call.
That's the thing. I'm not sure what terms we are post break-up. He hasn't contact me since the "we are over" call.
I do still love him.
Ok, in that case I'd avoid contact with him. You already know you still have feelings for him, and he hasn't reached out to you. You're just opening the door for more pain if you get rejected again...
The question is do you care about him or do you care about you and what you want from him? It doesn't usually serve to have an agenda, but look, if you go to him now, he will just use you whenever she dumps his as*. She will likely need him in the future for money , company, sex or whatever and he will probably come running- ESPECIALLY if you let him know you will always be his soft place to land. Just stay away. This is actually best for you and best for your agenda with him, which we can only assume is to be with him. He's got to earn his way back in, not just come to you when his first choice (sorry if that's hard to hear) dumps him. You must change and show him you don't need him and let him feel his own pain so that MAYBE - and it's a big maybe- he will act right with you. This is not a good path to go down, to be his comforter. He will want you more when he thinks he can't have you . . .Give this some thought. and some time. You can always go to him later. Let his situation reach it's rock bottom. I doubt that it has. YET.
Sounds like his new woman just used him to pay off her bills and then tossed him aside. To think he dumped you for that. I would never talk to someone that did that to me.
Sounds like his new woman just used him to pay off her bills and then tossed him aside. To think he dumped you for that. I would never talk to someone that did that to me.
Exactly.
Just because you love him is no reason to tie yourself to him.
I would not want to be with someone who showed such poor decision-making.
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