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Certain events have led me to believe that one of the major reasons for my rejection by the young lady I am interested in is due to my appearance. I do not consider myself hideous, however I know am nothing extraordinary in the looks department. Apparently, my appearance is not satisfactory by this girl’s standards.
My question for you today is this: Do you believe it is possible for someone to eventually come to accept another for a relationship regardless of an appearance issue. Could they ever possibly see beyond the outside appearance of a person, and come to know the qualities/traits which truly define their character?
I previously posted that I believed this type of judgment to be grossly unfair. After much debate with others on this forum, I have come to recognize that it is not possible to minimize the issue, because apparently appearance IS very important.
I am curious to see what you think.Please share your thoughts and opinions regarding this question
I tried once with a very nice guy who I wasn't attracted to and it failed miserably. He ended getting hurt far worse than I did. You need to be attracted to the person you're dating.
Sure it is possible. Depends though on age. People in their 20s tend to care too much about looks. Once you've been around the block a few times, you realize that looks get moved to the bottom of the list in comparison to the important things that really matter.
No, its not possible. That is just how our chemistry is. If you don't find someone attractive, you won't truly love them and might even be tempted to cheat on them. Like Katykat01 said, it will hurt both parties in the long run. It is best to have a mutual attraction.
Jay, you'll find someone who likes you eventually. It is not this girl that you like though, it is someone else that you will meet in the future. You have your whole life ahead of you. This isn't the 1950s anymore. People don't just marry this one person they knew in high school anymore. Most people meet their spouses in college or at work (or even some social function like church or charity events, I dunno). The majority of my peers are married college sweethearts, coworkers, or someone they met through a friend.
To be honest, no you are not attractive in the conventional Brad Pitt/model sense (average people like you and me hardly are) but you are not butt ugly either. Just have fun graduating and focus on your future (college, making good grades, internships, etc). Once you get settled, it will become easier for you to find a woman since women are attracted to stable guys with good careers. Besides, you are still growing. People's looks change dramatically from high school to their mid 20's. Please have fun with your life and don't focus on this girl. You only get to be young once.
Certain events have led me to believe that one of the major reasons for my rejection by the young lady I am interested in is due to my appearance. I do not consider myself hideous, however I know am nothing extraordinary in the looks department. Apparently, my appearance is not satisfactory by this girl’s standards.
My question for you today is this: Do you believe it is possible for someone to eventually come to accept another for a relationship regardless of an appearance issue. Could they ever possibly see beyond the outside appearance of a person, and come to know the qualities/traits which truly define their character?
I previously posted that I believed this type of judgment to be grossly unfair. After much debate with others on this forum, I have come to recognize that it is not possible to minimize the issue, because apparently appearance IS very important.
I am curious to see what you think.Please share your thoughts and opinions regarding this question
Thank you very much,
J
Personally I wouldn't even want to be with someone that did not find me attractive in any way. There are too many people in this world to pursue someone that isn't even attracted to me in the first place.
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