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Ask which she means. I know, that's the rocket science level of dating.
But the question is asked so many times that I would get tired of asking for clarification. It sounds like a question so one has on a notepad while they are on the phone with you lol
But the question is asked so many times that I would get tired of asking for clarification. It sounds like a question so one has on a notepad while they are on the phone with you lol
Then I suggest printing out a list of the standard questions and answers and handing it to her or email it the first time one comes up. "Oh, that's number four. Here, this should save us some time. (I emailed you the lot.)" Then take control of the conversation and ask something you want to know!
Then I suggest printing out a list of the standard questions and answers and handing it to her or email it the first time one comes up. "Oh, that's number four. Here, this should save us some time. (I emailed you the lot.)" Then take control of the conversation and ask something you want to know!
That's what it seems like I have to start doing to avoid those dumb questions. lol
"Where do you see yourself in 5 years?" sounds like a job interview. Or something that the woman's parents would ask you. I haven't been asked that. I haven't asked a guy that either.
I think the birthday question is just so they make sure they don't miss your birthday. They might want to get you a card or a gift, or at least call you to say Happy Birthday.
I think the birthday is because they want to know your zodiac sign, so they can look up your compatibility (ask how I know, lol).
I don't see anything wrong with asking if you like your job, btw, it can open a good conversation about what you're passionate about. These are all just ice breakers, sometimes it's hard to think of what to say. They are nervous too, OP, why not give them a break? Better yet, take the lead and steer the conversation where you want it to go.
I think the birthday is because they want to know your zodiac sign, so they can look up your compatibility (ask how I know, lol).
I don't see anything wrong with asking if you like your job, btw, it can open a good conversation about what you're passionate about. These are all just ice breakers, sometimes it's hard to think of what to say. They are nervous too, OP, why not give them a break? Better yet, take the lead and steer the conversation where you want it to go.
Oh yeah, I didn't think of that. Someone who's into astrology would ask that.
And the all most annoying question meeting someone for the first time of the opposite sex is........
1. WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO FOR FUN
LOL. I'm sure we have all been asked one of these stupid questions at some point when meeting someone new.
Are you talking about the first in-person meeting (after some emails, chats, etc.) or first encounter?
Question #4 is very strange, as it should only be asked by a recruiter in a screening interview; even then, it doesn't seem too informative.
Question # 5 is appropriate after a few dates but awkward too soon.
Question # 2 shouldn't be asked ever; it's just dumb.
Questions # 1 and 3 don't really bother me. TBH, they're often just throw-away lines/Q's, so I wouldn't let them bother you too much. We spend a lot of time at work so it's a relevant topic that can lead to other topics. Question # 3 is going to come up; it's just small talk. I really wouldn't let it bother you.
My advice to you is to be aware of the fact that strangers are just that: strangers. When you don't know someone, there's less to say to them and the conversation will be more generic than with someone you've known longer. If you continue to talk to this stranger, they will become less of a stranger and the conversation will become less generic.
In most of my experiences, certain questions tend to come up quite often: place where someone grew up, job, education, family (# of siblings, etc), hobbies/interests (read: what do you like to do for fun), etc. IMO, it's more a function of two people not knowing each other well than either or both of them being socially awkward.
Do you think the asking of these questions is hurting your dating life? Do you think different questions being asked would make you more successful?
I agree that these questions are kind of boilerplate, but they're almost inevitable when meeting someone who you know nothing about. They're similar questions you'll ask if you're meeting someone as a friend. Besides situational questions (for ex, which team are you cheering for, did you watch American Idol last night, etc), it's tough to come up with more specific conversation topics with strangers. Generally speaking, someone will have to be more than a stranger in order to ask them questions you couldn't ask any other person.
I dislike the 'Why did past relationships end' question, I mean d'oh you're single again too, aren't ya?
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