Does Your Wife Shop Too Much? Mine Can & I Despise It (guy, lover)
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My husband "follows" me on our debit account when I go shopping. He knows where I've been and how much I've spent. When I get home he says "so what did we buy today?" LOL
That's the beauty of separate finances.
I'm not a huge fan of shopping for shopping's sake. The only time I like to browse is if I'm on vacation or in a touristy place, OR in a bookstore.
I don't ask my husband to join me if I'm shopping for clothes. I love him FAR too much to put him through that torture.
I'm not a huge fan of shopping for shopping's sake. The only time I like to browse is if I'm on vacation or in a touristy place, OR in a bookstore.
I don't ask my husband to join me if I'm shopping for clothes. I love him FAR too much to put him through that torture.
Oh I don't mind...he's not complaining.
He told me he can tell when I'm on my way home (I rarely answer the phone when I'm out)...I start hitting locations closer to home and the last stop is usually the grocery store. He knows he's getting a decent meal when that happens...LOL
oh i don't mind...he's not complaining.
He told me he can tell when i'm on my way home (i rarely answer the phone when i'm out)...i start hitting locations closer to home and the last stop is usually the grocery store. He knows he's getting a decent meal when that happens...lol
I don't get what the big deal is. Is she making you go along? Is she using up ALL the free time you guys have together to shop?
I'm like your wife, I LOVE shopping, not even buying stuff as much as browsing, I can kill hours upon hours even in a grocery store. It's relaxing to me, it's a nice mindless pastime. My husband is like you, hates shopping, so I never bring him along if I can help it; I can't even drag him out to buy HIM some new clothes, I buy all his clothes down to underwear and socks. It works for us. He likes video games, he plays hours of them on the computer every single day after work, WAY more than I go shopping - I don't get that, but I really couldn't care less; all I ask is that he pitch in with spending time with our son, but after his bedtime - he can play as much as he wants - while I browse online shopping sites, lol! I know lots of women who hound their spouses constantly about playing too many video games because they think it's immature, childish, silly, whatever. I never got that. We're both grown people, we have the right to do what we like doing to relax, with no judgement. Simple as that. He actually tends to be more judgemental about my pastimes than I do his, so I'll bring that point up whenever he says something and he shuts up. We spend weekends together as a family and when we have a chance we'll go to date nights and whatnot, I'd never give that up to go shopping. But, especially before we had a kid, if he wanted to spend half a weekend day raiding while I went shopping - hell, what's wrong with that?
I'm not a huge fan of shopping for shopping's sake. The only time I like to browse is if I'm on vacation or in a touristy place, OR in a bookstore.
Usually when I go shopping I'm on a mission for something. Sometimes with my sisters or my friends, we'll go shopping as kind of a bonding experience. Nobody's spending a lot of (or any) money, but we walk around, we talk, we get coffee, that sort of thing. It's just something to pass the time.
You don't like to shop - that's fine. You SHOULD join her on shopping trips for things that you both need or for the house. The rest of the time, you politely decline. It's not that hard. She can drive, right? If she holds it against you, that's a problem, but you deal with that as it comes.
Honestly, based on this thread and the other you started here, you seem like a rather high-strung and easily irritated person who has married someone who is needy and pushy. That's not a good combination. Marriage counseling would probably be a good idea.
Usually when I go shopping I'm on a mission for something. Sometimes with my sisters or my friends, we'll go shopping as kind of a bonding experience. Nobody's spending a lot of (or any) money, but we walk around, we talk, we get coffee, that sort of thing. It's just something to pass the time.
My wife doesn't particularly like shopping. I don't care for it either, but it's not a big deal.
We do almost all shopping together. It's more efficient, and I have a large influence on what clothing she buys, so she always wears things that look good to me, and vice versa.
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