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It's not that people here are unfriendly, they will hold the door for you and wave you into traffic and stuff like that, it's that everything is maddeningly impersonal. The attitude is "have a nice day, somewhere else". It's easy to get along but making friends is almost impossible. People will say they want to hang out with you sometime and look at you like a freak when you actually suggest something. People enthusiastically say they are coming to a party then don't show up. People are flaky and hard to pin down. Girls lead you on for weeks and snub you with no explanation. People are insincere. Norms of social interaction don't apply here. Most people don't like or dislike you, they're totally indifferent. Every interaction will be maddeningly superficial.
While in settings such as bars and parties, people from Seattle tend to mainly interact with their particular clique.
Rather than be outgoing and kind to others, men and women in Seattle have decided that the best way to be friendly is to simply leave people alone to do as they please.
With everyone leaving everyone else alone, it has become unnatural to talk to strangers. Indeed, those that do try to go out of their way and meet someone new are seen as strange and possibly off, and are often tolerated until the moment that the person has the opportunity to leave.
It takes longer to open up and friendship has to grow slowly up here.The uncomfortable looks you get when you strike up a conversation with a stranger. The lack of eye contact. The shy, don’t-talk-to-me body language.
We have a saying up here it goes like this "Hey lets do something some time and by some time i mean never". Another one is have a nice day but have it somewhere else.
Yea it can suck up hear and making friends is hard . One just was to really work at making friends and be outgoing.
Another saying for Seattle is it's like the prom queen who's nice to you because she wants you to vote for her. I will find the people you're talking about and then the complete opposite, the people who are so desperate for you to like them, probably because of aforementioned people who close them off.
I think if there is nothing serious tying you to the town/city that you live in and you are having dating problems, a move can be very good. There are places that have more singles and a better dating scene, depending on what you are looking for. It is exciting and something new, a new start.
Eh...I just can't see moving, just because you can't get a date. It's one thing if you are having a hard time making money, Cost of living is too high AND you can't find dates. But if everything else is going well, that's a big risk to take. My dating life sucks right now, but I have a great job, great career, and awesome friends to hang out with. I just can't see starting over again in a new town, new part of the country or whatever, just to get dates.
Divorced is fine, but I'm not finding any divorced ones who are single, either.
Yeah a lot women aren't completely single. There's always someone in the wings, some wolf you have to (try) to shoo away. I'm truly a freak of nature though. No men hanging around.
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