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Rejection hurts period! I personally have never said, well at least she thinks I look good or at least she thinks I have a great personality. No matter the reason, it's gonna hurt me just the same.
Personality. I think I'm awesome as sh*t in the character and personality department, but I fully realize not everyone can handle this level of awesome.
But under the circumstances, "personality" might instead be "demeanor." I'd be more insulted to be rejected for my demeanor than personality, because someone would either have to be very incompatible with me or have bad judgment to refuse me a chance based on my personality. Demeanor is something I wish could be better, but have never controlled well. Getting rejected for that would be like getting rejected for my looks, somebody making a hasty judgment on something that shouldn't matter much within a relationship (actually demeanor should count even less than looks).
I wonder if the sting of rejection for personality vs. looks works differently for people who just want to hook up.
100% of the time I am rejected due to what I look like. I have no idea what it's like being rejected because she didn't like my personality, so I can only say looks because that's the only experience that I have.
Not saying that I have that good of a personality that every woman just loves, but the women who I dated in the past liked my personality.
100% of the time I am rejected due to what I look like. I have no idea what it's like being rejected because she didn't like my personality, so I can only say looks because that's the only experience that I have.
Not saying that I have that good of a personality that every woman just loves, but the women who I dated in the past liked my personality.
C'mon....
You believe every woman that has ever rejected you has done so ONLY because of your looks? Sooo... You have the perfect humor, intelligence, personality, kindness, caring ability, ability to make someone comfortable etc. etc. etc. for every woman that has turned you down?
When you stop believing this fallacy you have created in your head you will be a lot better off. I'm not saying your looks aren't part of the issue. If you believe what you said then I'm sure they are, but I promise you they are not EVERYTHING.
Personally I've probably been turned down for a ton of reasons. Not too many which girls have openly told me.
I've never had a girl say "you aren't funny enough" or "you don't make enough money" or "you're too short" or "you're too skinny" I'm typically left with reasons upon which I can only assume on my own.
It would hurt both ways, but I can't imagine anyone rejecting me based on my personality.
Maybe for a long term relationship (I can be very type A and I also like corny jokes), but unlikely right off the bat.
My friends, exes, etc, call me the chameleon because I can pretty much fit in anywhere and chat anyone up and be friendly and fun in any situation.
100% of the time I am rejected due to what I look like. I have no idea what it's like being rejected because she didn't like my personality, so I can only say looks because that's the only experience that I have.
Not saying that I have that good of a personality that every woman just loves, but the women who I dated in the past liked my personality.
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Originally Posted by houstan-dan
C'mon....
You believe every woman that has ever rejected you has done so ONLY because of your looks? Sooo... You have the perfect humor, intelligence, personality, kindness, caring ability, ability to make someone comfortable etc. etc. etc. for every woman that has turned you down?
When you stop believing this fallacy you have created in your head you will be a lot better off. I'm not saying your looks aren't part of the issue. If you believe what you said then I'm sure they are, but I promise you they are not EVERYTHING.
Personally I've probably been turned down for a ton of reasons. Not too many which girls have openly told me.
I've never had a girl say "you aren't funny enough" or "you don't make enough money" or "you're too short" or "you're too skinny" I'm typically left with reasons upon which I can only assume on my own.
Can't...Read...Good...
I knew someone was going to post something like this, and I EVEN tried to stop that. Oh well.
I knew someone was going to post something like this, and I EVEN tried to stop that. Oh well.
Yeah, the woman you have dated in the past liked your personality. Good job.
And you said every girl that's ever turned you down was because your looks? Really, did they tell you this?
Just because the girls you dated liked your personality doesn't mean that every woman will
Tons of girls love my company, and there's plenty I couldn't get along with if my life depended on it.
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