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The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome
If I messaged 50 women who had no interest in me, why would the next 50 feel any different? And I'm not bitter at all. Online dating is incredibly one sided as I said - I'm sure that the women I messaged all receive a couple hundred messages a day. You have to be the absolute top of the top of the top of the top in OLD to get anywhere as a man
If you don't want to do the same thing over and over, why are you rejecting people's suggestions of what you can do that's different?
If you don't want to do the same thing over and over, why are you rejecting people's suggestions of what you can do that's different?
I'm not, you ignored this for some reason
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Originally Posted by RogerShah
I looked up meetup.com and I saw a couple dating groups that would be interesting to me
I must admit I'm hesitant because I have no idea what to expect and I feel somewhat embarrassed/pathetic that I have to resort to this to find a partner. The other issue is that the dating group I saw says mid 20s all the way up to 50s. I'm 26, am I going to find women in my age range? I would not mind having a casual affair with somebody significantly older but I am probably not interested in dating anybody who is older than 27-30
Has anybody here ever met somebody at a meet up group?
Is there any guy out there who has ever met his girlfriend someway outside of the old "friends/school/work" option that everybody seems to meet their partner?
Yes.
I randomly asked out a girl working behind the counter at a Pizza joint. She said she was married but had a single friend. The single friend turned out to be pretty hot so we started dating. 2 years later we were married.
I met my last girlfriend while out mountain biking. She was hiking and I had stopped to take in the view so I just struck up a conversation with her as she was passing by. We dated for nearly a year.
Life is like baseball. Sometimes you swing and miss. Sometimes you get a hit but then get thrown out. Sometimes you hit a home run. Sometimes it rains. Regardless, you're not going to hit a homer unless you step up to the plate and take swing. [A word of advice: choose wisely which pitch you swing at because getting thrown out can....all but ruin your life.]
I can't do it. I can not approach a girl unless the scenario in my mind makes sense on some level
I don't want to get blown out, I don't want to hit on a girl who is there with her boyfriend waiting or with her friends just wanting to have a fun ladies night out
Then get used to being alone. This is the only scenario that works. It's numbers, numbers, numbers.
You're thinking about it the wrong way. You're not "hitting on" every woman, you're just striking up a friendly conversation.
It's EXACTLY like networking with people in your industry. You're not chatting up every person with the hope of getting a new job, but if you make the right contacts, it may lead to one.
Is there any guy out there who has ever met his girlfriend someway outside of the old "friends/school/work" option that everybody seems to meet their partner?
Have you tried sitting alone at a restaurant bar and just ordering a drink or dinner?
Occasionally, women will strike up a conversation with you just seeing you alone like that. Stuff happens when you least expect it.
I randomly asked out a girl working behind the counter at a Pizza joint. She said she was married but had a single friend. The single friend turned out to be pretty hot so we started dating. 2 years later we were married.
I met my last girlfriend while out mountain biking. She was hiking and I had stopped to take in the view so I just struck up a conversation with her as she was passing by. We dated for nearly a year.
Life is like baseball. Sometimes you swing and miss. Sometimes you get a hit but then get thrown out. Sometimes you hit a home run. Sometimes it rains. Regardless, you're not going to hit a homer unless you step up to the plate and take swing. [A word of advice: choose wisely which pitch you swing at because getting thrown out can....all but ruin your life.]
What do you mean by that last bit? What is "getting thrown out" an analogy to?
What do you mean by that last bit? What is "getting thrown out" an analogy to?
Getting sacked by divorce lawyers and or psychopath spouses.
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