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I was wondering how many on the board have continued dating someone who early on in the dating process admitted they cheated on someone. This is an automatic no go for me if a woman admits this regardless of what explanation or reason they give for the cheating. Thoughts or experiences welcome.
I've had quite a few relationships with women that have cheated, although none of them ever just came out and announced that they had cheated on someone they were in a relationship with. . . . .
Because all of those relationships started when the women I was with were either cheating on their husband or boyfriend.
And any time that I allowed our relationship to continue past a certain point (usually 18 months) - there was always at least a 90% chance that they would start cheating on me.
That is how it works: CHEATERS CHEAT
Fish swim
Birds fly
Lions attack. . . .
and CHEATERS CHEAT
When the sex is phenomenal and out of control, it possible for a man to ignore what it is he is dealing with - most cheaters have a range of issues that cannot be fixed: histrionic personality disorder, narcissistic traits and characteristics and/or some level of sociopathic behavior.
I have. A few. No major problem for me. I see it as a symptom of a bigger problem in most cases, and the bigger problem was usually the partner being a total jerk wad.
My most recent serious ex had an affair toward the end of his dying marriage. It was with a co-worker. His whole life turned to sh*t once word got out. He disclosed this the first or second time we talked. He went into great detail about how the situation started and all that jazz. He was extremely transparent about everything, his past, present... all of it. He disclosed things to me no one else knows, and he did so because he trusted me and knew I wouldn't judge him with a superior heart. It was a lesson learned for him. He took a long break, 18 months, from women/dating, did a lot of soul-searching, introspection, etc., during that time of solitude. It helped him tremendously.
He's a great man. I never looked at him negatively because of his past indiscretions.
I was wondering how many on the board have continued dating someone who early on in the dating process admitted they cheated on someone. This is an automatic no go for me if a woman admits this regardless of what explanation or reason they give for the cheating. Thoughts or experiences welcome.
I would probably not mind this that much if this cheating occurring before the two of us were dating, rather than during the dating itself. If this cheating occurred during the dating itself, then I would seriously consider breaking-up with this woman.
No here.
There are specific things that I do not tolerate:
Don't lie to me
Don't cheat on me
Don't steal from me
Don't even think about getting physical/violent with me
If I find out any of the above I walk away and never look back.
I think it would depend on the nature of the indiscretion.
I've seen some really scandalous stuff over the years.
A drunken kiss might be OK.
F@cking your boyfriends best friend is not OK. That shows a level of selfishness and/or hedonism that I just can't relate to. How could you screw somebody over that bad?
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